The discussion that can kill a relationship......

Annie* writes….


“A few years ago, I trusted someone I clearly shouldn’t have and ended up with herpes. I’ve had therapy and come to terms with having it, and actually found in the last few years it’s barely had any effect on me at all…except when it comes to relationships.

It’s happened time and time again, I meet a nice guy, spend some time getting to know him and then once I tell him ‘whoosh’ he’s out the door!  I totally understand why people would be uncomforatble with this, and accept that its their choice, but ouch! Many friends have suggested not telling potential partners, but this just doesn’t sit right with me.

So my group therapy question is how and when do you tell a potential partner? Is there any hope or should I just resign myself to a lonely future…or lying?