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Been through a divorce? This woman desperately needs your help.


I want to leave my husband after years of emotional abuse.

I have 2 young children and need some advice on what I should do to prepare for the realities and any tips people have.

I don’t need to leave right now. I am not in danger, but having made the decision, I want to be well prepared and in control as much as I can. Having been though emotional hell, having lost all self esteem and thinking that I was the problem, I am now feeling stronger than ever. I have a little guilt at having to pretend everything is ok until the time is ‘right’, but it’s a small price to pay for what I want.

Watch some of the Mamamia team reveal the moment they knew they wanted to divorce their husbands (post continues after video).

I want to live in a home where I can be me, my kids can be kids and I’m not walking on eggshells every time I do something/don’t so something or open my mouth. I want to stop protecting my kids from annoying their dad.

I want prime custody – of course – but don’t want to prevent him access. I don’t want this to be about the kids at all. I can’t let emotion be part of this. My husband is a very literal and practical person who doesn’t understand human emotion, therefore even my approach to telling him I want this needs to be emotionally free.

Thankfully he almost destroyed that part of me so I can do that…

Please help.

The author of this post is a Mamamia reader who has chosen to remain anonymous.

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