The decision to see a therapist, no matter your reasons, can make you feel the most alone person in the world.
You might feel uncomfortable by the thought of seeing a counsellor. You don’t think anyone will understand why you need help. Maybe you don’t understand why you need help. All you know is, you don’t feel right.
With these doubts running through your head, it can be difficult to commit. To make the jump. To book the appointment. Drive to the clinic. Sit in the waiting room. “This is ridiculous” you think to yourself.
That’s the moment when you need to know about the others who have come before you.
Psychologists have shared, through Ask Reddit, the most common things they’ve heard from patients in their clinics. These insights will help you realise you are not alone. That fear, dissatisfaction, emptiness? Others have felt it too. They’ve sought help. They’ve gotten better.
Here’s what you need to know:
“I don’t know if I need to be here.”
Very often, clients start with, “I don’t know if this is relevant/ I don’t know if I should say this” or some variant of this – Thatsockgirl.
“I feel guilty asking for help.” – Cerebella.
“I’m only here because I was ordered by the court to get therapy”. Followed by: “I don’t have a problem.. I just got caught.” – DiepSleep, a past substance abuse therapist.
“I told myself I wouldn’t cry coming here. Sorry.” – Cerebella
“I wish I could go back in time.”
For people under about 60, what I often hear is something along the lines of “I just want to be like I used to be.” Unfortunately, most of us can never go back, especially when you consider the effects of normal aging and our tendency to look back fondly on the past and overestimate our abilities and existence. – Zombiewooof, neuropsychologist.
“I know I did the right thing, but I can’t get over the guilt.” – TIAT323.
I very often heard something to the extent of “I just feel like I’m living a life I did not AGREE to.” I consider it a silent mental illness, because while warped, it often nonetheless allows a person to go through the motions or even momentarily appease depression and anxiety. – Tia_Jamon, former psychiatrist now practicing another field of medicine.
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“I don’t give anything to myself.”
“I’m always taking care of others, but I feel guilty taking time for myself.” – Cereblla.
“I’ve been living my life doing what I thought I should and then I just suddenly realised, I wasn’t doing what I wanted to do. I fell like I’ve wasted so much time.” – TIAT323.
One of the most common things I hear people say, in some way, is that they help others even at the cost of themselves. Helping others is such a positive thing, but so many people forget to take care of themselves in the process. I have had clients loose jobs, not be able to pay rent, or even just put a serious amount of stress on themselves – all in an attempt to help somebody else out. It’s just not worth it. You are not REQUIRED to help anybody out, thus you can make a choice when to do it. – Hybriss099.