How would you react if your partner said they couldn’t make the birth of your child?
Can’t make the birth sorry luv. The footy is on.
Could you deal with that? SHOULD you deal with that?
Is it okay for a father-to-be or partner-to-be to skip the birth of their child because they have somewhere else to be? Or is the birth of a baby so sacrament that absolutely nothing should get in the way?
What if going to the birth means your partner will miss out on doing something they love for the very last time?
This morning on Sydney radio station Triple M the Grill Team of Gus Worland, Mark Geyer and Matty Johns literally grilled a man who is about to miss the birth of his second child because of footy.
Cowboys NRL Player James Tamau is going to miss the birth of his 2nd child because he is playing for the Australian Kangaroos at Suncorp Stadium tomorrow night. He told them that he may never play again for such a squad and didn’t want to miss the chance.
“You only get to play so many tests for Australia” the team at Triple M teased him.. “ And you are right you might go on to have seven or eight kids.”
You can probably predict the comments. That he is selfish. He is putting the needs of himself over the needs of his partner. That he is only thinking of his career.
That she needs him.
His partner, Brittney McGlone actually gave him her blessing to miss the birth of their first child in 2013 so it seems she has dealt with this before. In that case he made it.
However women I have spoken to who heard the segment were not so easygoing. Most felt it was something he would regret and said that they would be furious if their partner made that same decision.
“I am not going through all that pain without him there to support me.”
“There is no way I would let my husband miss my baby’s birth”.
“He got me in this position he can watch me get out of it.”
Its time for everyone to get in the calm birthing position and breathe deep. Pant if you must.