Confession: I don’t have a WhatsApp friend group.
I also never had Zoom drinks with the girls during isolation. And since restaurants reopened, I haven’t been invited to a single group dinner.
I’ve never been great socialising in groups – I gravitate strongly towards one-on-one, meaningful relationships. And these last few months it has really hit home how this friendship isn’t celebrated nearly as much in society as the classic ‘girl gang’.
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Lately, like most, I’ve spent a lot more time scrolling on my phone, and after a while it made me seriously question my real-life social skills. I started comparing my own friendships to those oh-so-close groups of women I kept seeing online. They seemed so happy, so connected, so cool.
I found myself pining for a group of girlfriends to gossip and giggle with.
I even started listing my friends (ok, it’s a shortlist) and wondering whether they had groups I could join, or whether I could lump them together to form my own gang.
But then I stopped and realised I didn’t need to.
Maybe I’m different from everyone else, but I don’t think I want to be part of a gang.
Don’t get me wrong – I’m an extrovert. Put me in a room full of people and I’m energised. I’ve just never found one particular set of women I fit into.
Maybe it’s my personality; I wear my heart on my sleeve, which also means I’m not great at faking interest or enjoyment in something if I don’t genuinely feel it. Plus, I’m terrible at small talk – I never seem to know the latest Netflix show/fashion trend/celebrity relationship/political movement I should be all over.