Us, dependent? No.
“But, do you think it’s too loser-y?” she asked me.
My response: “No, do it. Maybe just don’t tell anyone you live with your folks…”
She and her partner both work full-time and make decent money, but are finding it hard to save up enough for a deposit on a first home (without, you know, giving up the overseas holidays and regular wining and dining).
Her younger sister and her respective boyfriend also recently moved back to family headquarters for the same reason.
“It’s not where I thought I’d be at 31,” my friend says.
“Neither of us are psyched about moving home – but you can’t argue with the numbers. The practicality is that we will save a lot in a year, which will allow us to get ahead.”
“I feel like I’m very lucky that my parents are pretty chilled out and we have a really good relationship, so it’s something we are all comfortable with.”
Matilda’s parents – who are retired and spent the last few years as empty nesters – will soon find their nest brimming with six adults, but they don’t mind.
“We’re more than happy to help,” Matilda’s mum says.
“We feel like we’re in a privileged position and if we can help our kids get ahead financially, we want to. We don’t see it as a burden, we enjoy having our kids under the same roof again. Now they’re older, we have a different relationship with them – it’s more like we are friends.”
It seems the days of parents chucking their kid’s belongings out of the house as soon as they hit 18 to ‘help them on their journey to adulthood’ are long gone.
Another friend of mine is 31 and lives rent-free with her parents, having NEVER moved out of home. Other friends have spent years living it up overseas and, upon returning as 30-somethings, have moved in with their parents after blowing all their cash at pubs across Europe and North America.
And it’s not just free accommodation they’re lapping up.
A pregnant friend’s mum is planning on relocating interstate for six months (and renting her own apartment) when the baby is born so she can help her out with cooking, cleaning and caring for the kid.
And I’m not exempt from this. I willingly accepted hand-outs offered by my parents and in-laws to pay for our wedding (after all, those things are bloody expensive – who can afford that alone?)
According to US studies, most young adults are receiving help from their folks – with parents forking out an average of $38,000 on each child aged between 18 and 34 (about $2,200 a year for education, housing, food or cash), and more in well-off families. They are also giving an average of 367 hours of help to their grown children each year.