Could you handle another woman sleeping with your husband? Meet the mum who truly believes that opening up our relationships could stop divorce rates in their tracks.
I believe that some people are naturally not monogamous. It’s like a bell curve. You’ve got the extremes, and then every other person lands in different places.
There are some people that are absolutely suited to monogamy. They need consistency and routine, but there are a bunch of people that need variety.
They can love more than one person at a time. But our arrangement is that my husband is my primary lover.
There is not one box that all of us can fit into. A lot of society in terms of religion and the media, push the idea that monogamy is the only option. It creates a struggle for some people.
When I got into this relationship, I said, "I’m not going to be who you want me to be, I’m going to be who I want to be".
I’ve been married once before and one of the things that I wish I had done was been myself more. I completely lost who I was because I picked up all of his interests and hobbies.
When Kerry and I first got together, I said to him, "I’m a flirtatious, social kind of person and I want to be able to be that person. If you can’t handle that, then there’s going to be an issue."
And he was relieved, because he was exactly the same.
Both of us in our previous relationships had very jealous partners, and we’d shut that part of us down because we didn’t want to cause pain to our partners.