“I’m freezing my eggs to take the pressure off finding Mr Right,” says Dr Nikki Goldstein.
Dr Nikki is 29 and she’s done her research. She has a degree in psychology, has worked as a family mediator assisting the process of divorce and she’s also a sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She has also just published a book called #singlebutdating.
And now she has decided to freeze her eggs.
The reason? She wants to take some pressure of trying to find the right man to have children.
“Fertility is one of the biggest issues impacting woman’s dating choices these days,” Dr Nikki says.
“Do we choose to settle for Mr Right Now instead of waiting for Mr Right because of our biological clocks? It seems so unfair that our minds have progressed and we have so many choices in life, yet our biological clocks have not shifted with the optimal age to give birth still being very young,” she says.
She says there is a stigma associated with freezing her eggs at her age.
“99.9% of people I tell say: ‘Don’t be silly you’ve got time’, ‘You’re too young to worry about that’, ‘Are you putting your career first?’ The last comment drives me crazy considering I work from home and set my own hours. I’m not choosing my career I’m choosing my life. Even if I found Mr Right NOW – I still would not want children at this moment. I want to experience my life before I devote it to a child,” she says.
Dr Nikki believes so much of how women date is pressured by the loud ticking biological clock.
“By freezing my eggs I’ve removed that ticking clock. I want to date who I want to date and fall in love rather than be desperate to find someone to have a baby with. It’s giving me more options to have a happy relationship first then a baby second, ” she says.
Some people say I should not be so fussy and just get married so I can have kids. But because my background was helping people divorce for a living, I know I want to be a happy parent. I don’t want the added drama of a dysfunctional relationship. I think it’s important to not pass down negative role modelling to children. Children from divorced families are more likely to get divorced because that’s what they know,” she says.