Being a first-time parent is hard enough, without the mum vs dad power struggle taking hold.
Remember how freaked out you were the first time that tiny little baby was placed in your arms and you eventually were allowed to TAKE THEM HOME? Nothing prepares you for that moment. That feeling.
Becoming a parents is equal parts joyous and terrifying and a new Australian reality TV show captures this dichotomy perfectly. Crash Test Mummies & Daddies follows the lives of five sets of first-time parents for the first four months of their babies lives. And one thing is made very clear:
Everyone finds it difficult.
But the main one is that there’s never a more challenging time in a relationship than in those first few months of being first-time parents.
It’s those first few weeks that sorts the men from the boys, and the women from the girls. Think breast milk, think sleep struggles, think nappy changes, think frustration.
But watching these five couples struggle with, well, everything, brings home an age-old fact that will never change:
When it comes to looking after newborns, there are ‘Mum jobs’ and ‘Dad jobs’ and no matter how equal we think we are, this will always be the case.
Mum jobs include:
Dad jobs include:
Handing the baby to the mum for a feed;
Burping the baby after a feed;
Helping to store any expressed breast milk;
Changing nappies, as instructed by the mum;
Dressing the baby, in the clothes laid out by the mum;
Ducking for cover.
It's just really really hard in those first few weeks and months because the mum is struggling to recover physically and emotionally from the birth, as well as, trying to deal with inflamed emotions courtesy of never-before-experienced unconditional love for a child and hormones.