Luke* met Kate* in January 2015 in Sydney. They clicked, flirted, swapped numbers, went on a few dates and started dating exclusively in March. Two months later she fell pregnant. Here, he shares his heartbreaking story with Mamamia:
“I’ve been in love before but nothing close to this. When I first met Kate there was a real warmth about her that I was drawn to. We had the conversation about dating exclusively – and it wasn’t awkward at all. Nothing about our relationship was awkward, it all felt very natural and right. I didn’t feel like I needed to keep any guard up to protect myself.
I was so in love with her, very quickly. There was no doubt in my mind that I wanted to marry her. I wanted a future with her and it didn’t seem like there was any reason that couldn’t happen. There were no hurdles. When she told me she was pregnant I asked her to marry me on the spot.
I felt we’d clicked, connected, and were heading in the same direction in life.
Looking back now, there probably were some red flags along the way but at the time I chose not to focus on them.
She was close to five months pregnant when I found out through a friend of a friend that she used to be a stripper. I could handle that. We talked about it; she promised it was all in her past. I felt we were in a different world now, our world, our bubble. My entire life was her, our unborn child and our future together.
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A few weeks later she had a miscarriage. It came totally out of the blue and happened very fast. One minute I was planning to take on a second job to bring more money in, the next she called me at work to say she was bleeding, and then our baby was gone.
Except, it wasn’t just our baby. It was everything that was gone.
In my mind I was counting the days down to becoming a father. I’d taken the responsibility of all that entails very seriously, without any doubt in my mind. There were pieces of paper with notes that I scribbled late at night adding up how much I could earn and save to give us a good life. It felt exciting to step up, it wasn’t daunting. I had no fear. I was totally onboard and committed.