How a Perth DJ learned the secret to orgasmic bliss.
Girls will often confide with each other about their sex lives, but even today most are too embarrassed to speak about it openly.
One of the common topics among close friends is whether our partners can make us orgasm.
A wide variety of online surveys tell me about 75 per cent of women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone — they’ll only get there with toys, tongue or touch.
Of course, many women are too embarrassed to introduce this kind of play into their sex lives.
I know in my early 20s I was too afraid to say to men what I really wanted or what felt good in the bedroom — so I just accepted that I probably would never orgasm.
In my very first relationship I think I reached climax maybe three or four times in our five and half years together. Neither of us knew what we wanted or how to get there.
Thankfully it’s a different story now. My partner and I have a healthy, exciting sex life.
Speaking about orgasms is taboo. I’m sure it’s even confronting for most people reading this.
The truth is women have been going unsatisfied for years because they’re too embarrassed to admit they’re not reaching climax. This can be with their partner or even when alone themselves.
There is a shockingly outdated myth that still persists that only some women can orgasm.
Growing up in a small country town of Bathurst in NSW, I never spoke about self-pleasure with my girlfriends because I was too embarrassed and to be honest I didn’t do it.
But, I’ve grown up and I’m a lot more confident now.
Women should feel comfortable, not awkward, about exploring their bodies and desires.
Today, in my 30s, I wanted to know more about my own body and I wanted to explore myself sexually a little more.
So I recently enrolled in Layla Martin’s six-week online “O Bliss” program. The course is all about using your mind along with exercises to reach climax.
Every week you receive a few short videos explaining the topic and how you complete the home play exercises.
Here’s a little intro, by Layla Martin herself. Let’s just say, this is the only one safe for work…(Post continues after video.)
These exercises you do on your lonesome, to try and take your body to orgasmic bliss. I thought I had awoken sexually, but I found I was totally out of my comfort zone. Who knew I was so uncomfortable being intimate with myself?