How right she is.
The message is blunt: People’s reproductive plans are none of your business.
And is a message that is being shared and liked right throughout the world by women agreeing with the words and wanting others to take note.
“You don’t know how your seemingly innocent question might cause someone grief, pain, stress or frustration.”
When Emily Bingham, a writer from Michigan, took to Facebook to appeal for the intrusive questions about fertility issues and social norms to stop she never expected this reaction. She never expected over 30,000 people to share it – many begging family and friends to take note.
The post asking for people not to plague reproductive-aged women with questions about their baby plans was accompanied by a random ultrasound photo she found on google to grab people’s attention. Emily pleaded with well-meaning friends, relatives and strangers to butt out.
In a comment underneath the post, Emily explained that the post was inspired by a friend who had gone through a stressful and heart-wrenching year of fertility treatments before she conceived her son only to be asked when baby number two would come just one month after giving birth.
She says “before you ask a single 30-something if/when s/he plans on having children because, you know, clock’s ticking … just stop. Please stop. You don’t know who is struggling with infertility or grieving a miscarriage or dealing with health issues.”
She says perhaps instead people instead ask others what they’re “excited” about at the moment, or what the best part of their day was.
“Bottom line. Whether you are a wanna-be grandparent or a well-intentioned friend or family member or a nosy neighbor, it’s absolutely none of your business.”