By JEANNETTE FRANCIS
Jeanette’s story will feature on SBS 2’s show The Feed this evening at 7.30pm.
My father has been trying to convince me to buy property for several years now. Two weeks ago he called with a friendly suggestion that I should open a First Home Savers Account – one that earns you high interest on a capped amount of money each year, until you’re ready to use it to buy a home.
I declined with a very well thought out and reasoned response – I don’t want to be an adult. My father – long skilled in the art of diplomacy – replied, “You don’t have to be an adult now. But if you want to later on, the option will be there.”
I should stress, I’m 28-years-old and for roughly 15 of those years I’ve been waiting to become an adult, to feel ready to embrace the world of responsible co-habitation, lawns, capri pants, murder-mystery shows on the ABC and the ultimate signifier of adulthood; responsibility for other human beings or children as they’re better known.
It hasn’t quite happened yet – which is fair given I’m still in my 20’s – but rather than being concerned it won’t (as many I know are) I’m slightly more concerned it will.
See I’m afflicted with what my sister has diagnosed to be, “Selfish Arsehole Syndrome,” an allegedly common condition known to exist in men and women aged between 25 and 35 who thoroughly enjoy the relatively carefree lives they lead. I’m not saying I bear no responsibility for anything, I’m just saying that on a scale of things, I’m carrying the burden okay.
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Great article on a subject that doesn't get enough media attention.
Nobody seems to have mentioned that it's not just about eggs, your whole body is not the same as you age.
I'm turning 40 next year, have a 2yo, a baby on the way... and I'm EXHAUSTED!
I got married at 33, it took 3 years longer than we expected to get pregnant the 1st time and another 2 years of constant ovulation, pregnancy and then starting down the very expensive IVF path before falling naturally the second time. In the end I gave up my 12hr/day career for part time work to give my body a break while trying so we also couldn't afford to travel, buy a house or go out as much as we wanted anymore... & now I couldn't care less about any of that crap! I just want to fly kites, go to the zoo, catch trains, ride bikes & have a laugh with my family.
If I had any advice for my 30 year old self it'd be... stop planning life so much & start living it! If it doesn't work out exactly as you expected, enjoy that life instead!
I agree100%. The older your body the harder it is. I just had my first baby at the age of 36. Although I fell pregnant immediately and I was fit and healthy at the time, the actual pregnancy was exhausting. I felt horrible the whole 9 months. The only pleasant part of being pregnant was feeling my baby kick. I want to get pregnant again by my 37th birthday as I don't think I could handle being pregnant over 38, especially with a toddler to chase after!