My seven-year-old daughter recently made a new best friend and I was thrilled. I hit it off with the girl’s mum straightaway. She’s a busy working mum, like me, and we can actually have real conversations, rather than the polite small talk I’m forced to make with the other mums at the school.
So the new best friend – let’s call her Violet – came for a sleepover last weekend. It was my daughter’s first sleepover. I did my usual half-arsed last-minute clean-up, which involved shoving all the mess into my bedroom and closing the door.
When Violet arrived, she went around snooping the house.
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“Don’t go in there,” I warned as she got close to my bedroom.
She went in there.
“Wow, this is really messy,” she announced.
Yeah, well, I told you to keep out, didn’t I?
I had this vague idea that I might get a bit of time to myself as Violet and my daughter kept each other amused. But I spent the whole time trying to keep Violet out of trouble.
“Oh, wait, don’t go out in the backyard till I’ve checked for dog poo. Wait! Oh, what? You’ve just stepped in it? Okay, let me clean your shoe.” Because I love cleaning dog poo off kids’ shoes.
I followed Cyclone Violet around the house. She wanted to build a cubby house. Great. But did she really need to drag out every sheet I own for something that was only going to keep her amused for five minutes?
When my daughter wanted to have a few quiet minutes to herself and read a book, Violet couldn’t cope.
“She won’t play with me,” Violet whined, giving me the sad eyes that I assume work on her mum.
What, I’m supposed to play with you? No thanks.
At one point I noticed my toddler son with chocolate smeared on his face. I found out that Violet had brought a box of chocolates with her – which I assume she was meant to give to me – and was taking my son into the bedroom and stuffing him full of chocolate. (My chocolate. Mine.)