Warning: This post deals with themes of domestic violence, and may be upsetting for some readers.
One of the golden rules of being a decent human being is understanding that domestic violence is not, and never will be, a laughing matter.
This seems like a fairly obvious rule for the vast majority of us, and yet there are still a select few within society who don’t seem to understand exactly what comprises of a ‘joke’. It appears the employees of a Texas bar, Scruffy Duffies, fall into this category.
On 24 May, a female employee wrote up a sign to lure customers inside, as they do every few days. Except this time, the sign they put up was seriously offensive.
It read, “I like my beer how I like my violence. Domestic”.
And though we’re sure (or at the very least hope) a few people in the crowded bar winced while walking in, none of them actually did anything to take down the unbelievably offensive sign.
That is, until Courtney Williams arrived.
She was so appalled by the sign that she demanded it to be taken down three separate times. Yet with each request, first to a bartender and then to two different managers, she was treated with condescension. She was told to “calm down” and “stop being so aggressive”.
She was treated as an overly emotional woman for standing up against a ‘joke’ that was anything but humorous.
And the way she describes the nights events are all too familiar to those who’ve ever tried to stand up against this sort of ‘fun’:
“He [the manager] asked my name, I told him. He introduced himself and shook my hand. He then proceeded to tell me the sign was a joke, and that it rotates different things all the time. When I told him it was in extremely poor taste and that I’d appreciate it being taken down, he told me to calm down, and that if I hadn’t been so “aggressive” the conversation would go better.”
Following this encounter, Williams was so upset she left the building. When she returned a few minutes later to say goodbye to her friends, she was then refused attendance back inside.
Yes, that’s right. She was denied access back to the bar for standing up against up against an employee’s misplaced attempt at humour.