Whenever someone hears my estimated number of sexual partners it’s always the next question I get.
“What’s the biggest you’ve seen?”
So when Carla GS, my lovely, prudish friend asked me, she got an answer she probably wasn’t expecting:
Because penises come in all shapes and sizes. The biggest was the roughly the size of my forearm, the smallest was the size of my thumb.
And yes, I made sex work with both. And you can too.
The biggest, and the smallest I've seen.
The key here is not the size of the penis. They key to great sex at any size lies within the vagina.
Vagina's are awesome. Like a muscle they are capable of relaxing, stretching and ballooning, as well as contracting. Think about it, our vaginas are both capable of birthing babies, as well as holding tampons securely.
So with appropriate foreplay we can have good sex regardless of penis size, shape or angle.
Some penises - due to a condition called peyronies disease - develop a bend, meaning the erection has up to a 90-degree angle in it, but it doesn't mean you can't have great sex. As always, the key is communication. So speak up if something is causing discomfort or if you’re not really feeling it in a particular position.
Here are my tips for working with penises; no matter the size.
Whether it's a thumb or a gherkin, the key is to awaken the G-spot.
This is located about 1-2 cm inside our vagina - it feels like little ridges. During arousal when we stimulate this spot, it will engorge with blood. It becomes sensitive, and will move lower, and closer to the entrance of the vagina, making it easier for shorter penises to stimulate it.
Positions such as missionary with a pillow under our butts, and our legs back can really help the shorter penis penetrate deeper.
For thinner penises we need to contract our vaginal muscles around the penis. So this is the time to use our kegels, or pelvis floor squeezes, to grip the penis while it's inside the vagina.
Play around with positions for thinner penises. Sometimes rear entry lying side-by-side is really good, as the penis will then rub along your G-spot and anterior fornix, which are your two interior orgasmic spots.
Wide girth Penises.
This is the simplest penis to work with. Apart from making sure you are sufficiently aroused and that your vagina is relaxed, a tip I use sometimes is to relax my jaw upon penetration. This somehow allows me to relax my vagina to accommodate the girth.
As always, lube is your best friend here so make sure you use enough. And remember to slow things down by reverting to foreplay if you feel any discomfort.
Positions that are good for wide girth boys are cowgirl, where you are on top so you can control the penetration, or anything where you are open and relaxed, so missionary is probably my favourite for this.