Mum guilt. Let’s face it, it’s real. While most of us are just doing our best, day in, day out, sometimes we can’t help but beat ourselves up over our parenting and choices. Wishing we’d done something differently, or counting up our perceived 'failures' along the way.
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I say it’s time to ditch the guilt. Easier said than done, I know, but here are seven things I’m not going to feel guilty about anymore.
Having a cleaner aka the cleaning fairy.
Magic is real. And I realised that when I finally caved in to my husband’s suggestion and hired a wonderful cleaner. She comes to our house once a fortnight, and it’s been absolutely life-changing for us as a family.
Once a fortnight, our house is clean from top to bottom all at the SAME TIME.
I know it’s an absolute privilege to be able to afford a cleaner, and I’ve struggled with a lot of guilt around it. Surely we should be able to keep our own house clean?
But with three kids under nine, a shift-working husband and running my business, it’s fair to say that cleaning efforts in the past were sporadic and half-hearted. And there is still so much to do daily to keep the house in order, food cooked, clothes cleaned, etc.
I wish we’d hired our beautiful cleaning fairy sooner, but my ridiculous guilt as a woman/parent around outsourcing cleaning got in the way.
Secretly making things disappear.
Okay, so our cleaner is magic, but sometimes I am too.
Sometimes my kids' old toys just... magically disappear. And I used to feel bad about it.
I read about the importance of involving my kids in deciding when it was time for their toys to be handed on to another child or donated to charity, but every time I tried, they suddenly fell back in love with whatever piece of non-age-appropriate plastic they’d been ignoring for the past two years.