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"I reached my mid-30's and was agonisingly torn about whether I should have kids."

I had reached my mid-30s, and the biological clock had been ticking for a while – but I was still completely, agonisingly torn.

Should I have kids? Or should I keep my life as it was – simple, uncomplicated, and easy?

The answer came to me in an unexpected way, in the middle of a hot February night.

Do I want the pitter patter of tiny feet?

My husband and I were living in a house without air-conditioning, and we were feeling the heat. So were our two terriers, Indy and Missy. We’d just recently adopted the scruffy-looking sisters from a dog rescue home. They’d obviously been badly treated when they were pups, because they were very nervous animals.

Feeling sorry for them, we let them sleep on our bed. Bad idea. Every hot night – and there were a lot of them – they’d wake us up in the early hours of the morning so they could go outside and get some fresh air. I’d stumble out to the backyard with them, watch them trot around and sniff the grass for a while, then let them inside, and we’d all go back to sleep.

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Around 3am one night, I awoke, once again, to paws stepping restlessly over me and the sound of panting. As I sleepily sat up, the thought went through my head: this is what must be like to have a baby.

One of the biggest things that had been holding me back from getting pregnant was the worry that I would find a baby too tiring. I couldn’t imagine how I would cope with having to get up during the night and then face work the next day. But here I was, doing it for two dogs.

These aren’t Helen’s dogs, but they look like they’ve had a big night.

The next morning, when I woke up, I didn’t feel exhausted. I felt good. I started to think: maybe I could survive broken sleep. I knew from having dogs that I could deal with disgusting messes, and I had some basic idea of how to keep another creature alive. Surely I could handle anything that parenthood could throw at me?

And that was it.

Just after the end of the following summer, we welcomed our little girl. And yes, having a baby is a hundred times more difficult and complicated and messy than having a dog. But it’s a hundred times more wonderful too. And you know what? I did survive the broken sleep.

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