I know. I KNOW. The world genuinely feels like it’s come to an end after a breakup. After giving your heart and soul to a person for however long, you suddenly find yourself alone, reduced to tears at the drop of a hat. Literally. (Or maybe that’s just me?)
Everyone’s saying it will get better with time but truthfully you can’t imagine yourself ever getting over this person.
It’s not what you want to hear, but they’re right. You will move on, love again and possibly not even remember the name of the person you are currently bawling over. But that’s in the future. What are you meant to do now? Here’s the foolproof guide to getting your life back together after a bad breakup.
1. Indulge yourself.
Give yourself an allotted time to mourn your breakup. This may vary depending on how you feel or how long the relationship was. It could be a night, a weekend, a week or a month. Work out a time frame and mark it in your calendar. Then eat all the ice cream. Drink all the wine. Drunk text anyone but the person you’re trying to get over. Then when the day comes, hide the Bridget Jones DVD, wash your PJs and embrace a new chapter.
2. Get on Bumble.
I know it seems scary. The dating world can be daunting, especially when you've been burned. But this is the app to make your dating comeback with. Download it with a friend if that makes you feel better.
Bumble is a dating app with a difference - it puts the woman in the position of power. In heterosexual matches, the woman has 24 hours to make the first move and the man has 24 hours to respond. In same-sex matches, the woman has 24 hours to send that first message and 24 hours to respond, otherwise the connection expires.
It allows you to control the speed in which you progress - whether that's just to chat for a bit or find someone to meet up with. Finding it a bit too much right now? No problems. Simply swap to BFF mode and use the app to make some new friends instead, or try the new Biz mode and use this time on Bumble to make the connection that could dramatically transform your career. Ex, who?