Couples who sleep naked are happier, but not for the reason you think.

July 3, 2014

I could never sleep naked on a regular basis but when I do, it sends a strong message.

I don’t know that they needed to commission a survey to uncover this fact: Couples who sleep naked are happier.

But it has nothing to do with sex.

Sure, sex is easier when no nightwear is involved but I think that nightwear adds to the excitement of ‘night time cuddles’. Undressing each other or getting undressed for your partner can be exciting, that is, when you’re still in those first few heady years when you bother to go to the effort of doing a striptease.

Apparently 75 per cent of people wear nightclothes. But the study found that the reason sleeping naked helps is because it increases feelings of intimacy. You can have a skin-on-skin cuddle whenever you like, even if it’s just a quick one and you then roll away to resume reading an iBook on your phone.

Brian Viner, author of The Dad and The Ugly: The Trials of Fatherhood, told the Daily Mail that he and his wife are big fans of sleeping in the buff. “I don’t understand why anyone wouldn’t want to be naked, or nearly naked, in bed,” he explained. “It encourages intimacy, so I can see why being nude in bed makes for happier couples.”

A recent survey found that couples who go to bed nude are more happily married.

A good friend has confessed to sleeping naked every night and my first question was, "What do you do when the kids call out?"

July 3, 2014

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"I put on a robe," she said.

It might just be me but the thought of putting a robe on, then off, then on, then off, 30 times each night is not at all appealing.

I think the true power of sleeping naked is saving it for special occasions. I go to bed naked when my husband is angry with me about something. I throw off my night clothes, text him to let him know that I am completely naked, and all is forgiven.

Manipulative much?

Long-term relationships need intimacy and excitement. You need to make an effort.

If sleeping naked works for you, then go for it. Just have your robe handy. And put the heater on.

What do you where at night? Are you are fan of sleeping naked? How do you keep the intimacy alive in your relationship?

Looking for new ways to liven up your sex life? CLICK THROUGH this gallery for 66 tips that will help you along the way...

Sex basics: a sexy soak

Sex basics: a sexy soak

Sex in the bath is fun but can be tricky. Try this: fill the bath halfway with water, then pour plenty of bath gel over each other's bodies.

Sex basics: good vibrations

Sex basics: good vibrations

Take turns with the TongueJoy Oral Vibrator (from blissbox.com).

Sex basics: play Twister

Sex basics: play Twister...

...in the nude. And wet. It removes inhibitions and gets you in positions you wouldn't usually attempt.

Sex basics: a new angle

Sex basics: a new angle

By placing a pillow under your bottom you're creating an orgasm optimum 26-degree pelvic tilt, which means maximum contact between his body and your clitoris.

Sex basics: keep it clean(ish)

Sex basics: keep it clean(ish)

Have your man sit on top of the washing machine while you have sex (you perched on top, with your legs wrapped around his waist).

Bedroom basics: Don't go solo with your vibrator

Bedroom basics: Don't go solo with your vibrator

Only 25% of women climax through penetrative sex alone, so get your man to pleasure you with a sex toy while he's at it.

Sex basics: Talk dirty

Sex basics: Talk dirty

Ask him to talk to you when he's going down on you. The vibrations from his voice and the unpredictability of it will make you come even quicker.

Sex basics: good taste

Sex basics: good taste

Feed your man cinnamon, cardamom, peppermint and lemon if you're planning to give him oral sex. It'll make his semen taste nicer.

Sex basics: no deep diving

Sex basics: no deep diving

Make him stay at the shallow end to make sex better for you.

Sex basics: bad taste

Sex basics: bad taste

And don't let him near garlic, onions, curry or asparagus - all these foods will make his semen taste unpleasant.

Sex basics: use Chinese herbs and tonics

Use Chinese herbs and tonics

For centuries the Chinese have used herbs and tonics to enhance their sex lives.

Sex basics: pearls for him

Sex basics: pearls for him

Convince him to buy you more jewellery by masturbating him with a string of pearls.

Sex basics: he nose it

Sex basics: he nose it

Ask him to use his nose when he's going down on you. Most men genuinely love the smell of a woman and the nose makes an excellent clitoral stimulator.

Sex basics: take to the road

Sex basics: take to the road

If you enjoy outdoor sex, try this: take a drive to the country, open the car's sunroof and perch yourself on the edge of it, with your legs dangling down i

Sex basics: get experimental

Sex basics: get experimental

Spice up your sex life by doing it in the cupboard under the stairs - seriously.

Sex basics: get dizzy

Sex basics: get dizzy

Have sex on a swivel chair to make sex really exciting.

Sex positions: limber up!

Sex positions: limber up!

Make your man feel bigger inside you by placing your legs over his shoulders when having sex in the missionary position.

Sex basics: go red

Sex basics: go red

Colours create a sexy mood. Red, dark blue and violet are the three most erotic colours. And the least erotic?

Sex positions: give him a squeeze

Sex positions: give him a squeeze

Lie face-down on the bed and invite your man to lie on top of you, keeping his legs outside yours.

Sex positions: the tuck

Sex positions: the tuck

Sit on top of him with your feet tucked in tight either side of his bum.

Sex positions: doggy revisited

Sex positions: doggy revisited

Make doggy style work for you.

Sex positions: sexy spoons

Sex positions: sexy spoons

Get extra clitoral stimulation in the classic 'spoons' position with a simple body twist.

Sexual appetite: scream for ice cream!

Sexual appetite: scream for ice cream!

Make oral sex better for you and for him with some ice cream.

Sexual appetite: crush a grape

Sexual appetite: crush a grape

Chill some grapes in the freezer for at least 20 minutes.

Sexual appetite: get your greens

Sexual appetite: get your greens

Peel two thirds of a reasonably sized cucumber (make it organic, you don't want pesticides on your skin), and leave in the freezer for 40 minutes.

Sexual appetite: getting fruity

Sexual appetite: getting fruity

Forget unwieldy ice cubes for adding sensation to oral sex - pop a mouthful of frozen berries or tropical fruits in your mouth instead.

Sexual appetite: minty fresh

Sexual appetite: minty fresh

Take turns pouring minty alcohol into your belly buttons, dipping your tongues and tracing shapes around each other's bodies.

Sexual appetite: chemical high

Sexual appetite: chemical high

Forget the old sex and chocolate recommendations - cheese contains more phenylethylamine, the chemical that gives you that chocolate 'high'.

Sexual appetite: plain and simple

Sexual appetite: plain and simple

If you still prefer chocolate, make it plain rather than milk.

Sexual appetite: start the day the right way

Sexual appetite: start the day the right way

To get him ready for sex in the morning, make him cereal with chopped apple and almonds - both have high levels of phenylethylamine, which will

Sexual appetite: what a pear!

Sexual appetite: what a pear!

Eat avocado to get in the mood for love. It's loaded with the feel-good, pleasure-intensifying substance, phenylethylamine.

Sexual appetite: break open the bubbles

Sexual appetite: break open the bubbles

Take a swig of champagne before going down on him.

Food and sex: getting fresh

Food and sex: getting fresh

Most people know that mints can make oral sex even better (and is handy for freshening breath, too), but did you know that M&S's Curiously Strong Mints a

Fire up your foreplay: get rough

Fire up your foreplay: get rough

Don't be too gentle when you're giving him a helping hand.

Fire up your foreplay: going deep

Fire up your foreplay: going deep

Men do love the sensation of their penis deep inside your throat. Why?

Fire up your foreplay: the big O

Fire up your foreplay: the big O

Licking his penis like a lollipop is fine for foreplay but, if you're trying to get him to orgasm, he needs some friction.

Fire up the foreplay: enjoy yourself

Fire up the foreplay: enjoy yourself

Don't get stuck on sucking him - there's nothing worse for a man than if a woman is 'working' too hard when giving fellatio.

Fire up the foreplay: sweet music

Fire up the foreplay: sweet music

Sing to him while you give him oral pleasure.

Fire up the foreplay: exploring unchartered territory

Fire up the foreplay: exploring unchartered territory

Explore his nether regions more fully.

Fire up your foreplay: watch the pros

Fire up your foreplay: watch the pros

Watch porn. A recent survey found that women are just as aroused by watching erotic films as men.

Animal behaviour: go ape

Animal behaviour: go ape

Go ape to improve your sex life. Gorillas may have tiny penises (less than 3cm long) but they make up for it with hours of arousing mutual grooming.

Animal behaviour: have a nibble

Animal behaviour: have a nibble

Seals bite each other during sex and it seems there's good reason for it.

Animal behaviour: make him unstoppable!

Animal behaviour: make him unstoppable!

Tease your man into training by telling him about the male giant water bug.

He says: special moves

He says:

'When my girlfriend's on top, she sometimes does this extra-special move: instead of moving up and down, she does a figure-of-eight swivel with her hips.

He says: tricks

He says:

'I met this girl last year who kept a bottle of vodka in the freezer.

He says: use your hands

He says:

'I love it when a girl stimulates me with her hands while she's standing behind me.

He says: wrap me up

He says:

'There's nothing better than having a girl wrap her legs around you, locking her ankles together.

He says: clothes on

He says:

'I just love it when a girl keeps some of her clothes on during sex - skirt, shirt or, better still, boots or stilettos. It makes it feel illicit - and so arousing.'

He says: get down

He says:

'My girlfriend loves going down on me while I'm still soft. It really turns her on to think that she can make me hard with a few flicks and twists of her tongue.

He says: pelvic floor

He says:

'After my partner had our second child, she did pelvic exercises to strengthen her vaginal muscles. A few months later, the sex was better than ever.'

He says: hands and mouths

He says:

'The best oral sex involves more than a mouth and tongue.

He says: think outside the square

He says:

'My wife's just had a baby, so sex feels different now.

He says: penetration is optional

He says:

'Penetration isn't essential for a great orgasm. An ex-girlfriend of mine used to sit on top of me, with my penis flattened against my stomach.

He says: underwear

He says:

'My girlfriend ties a stocking around the base of my penis before it's erect. Then she licks me till I'm hard.

He says: hold me down

He says:

'I get embarrassed by the idea of my wife tying me up, but sometimes she simply holds me down by the wrists.

He says: never stop learning

He says:

'When performing oral sex, put your tongue inside her vagina and move it around before taking it out, and licking upwards, kissing and gently sucking the clitoris as you go'

He says: mirror mirror

He says:

'We've got a mirror in the wardrobe next to our bed, and I just love it when my girlfriend's on top with her back diagonally on to it.

He says: try something different

He says:

'When I go down on my girlfriend she lies on her side with one foot flat on the bed and her knee bent, and I lick her side-on, rather than lengthways.

He says: baby oil

He says:

'My girlfriend and I cover ourselves in baby oil, then once I'm inside her she lies flat on top of me.

She says: come on over

She says:

'When my partner goes down on me I love him to do a "come here" signal very slowly with two fingers inside me, especially if he's gently licking my clit at the s

She says: set the mood

She says:

'Set the scene by dressing-up in sexy underwear, light candles and put on some soft background music.

She says: preparation

She says:

'My partner and I like it if, during foreplay, I masturbate him to the point of climax and then move straight on to sex.

She says: friction

She says:

'I get great clitoral stimulation when my partner lies on top and slightly to the side so I have one leg up slightly and bent, and the other flat.

She says: waxing

She says:

Dare to go bare with a Brazilian wax. 'At first I felt a bit naked, but my boyfriend was so turned on that it made me feel sexier.

She says: go exploring

She says:

'Ban your hands! Explore each other's bodies with your nose, tongue, lips, hair, knees, toes - you'll be amazed at how sensational it feels.'

And finally

And finally...

Pick your favourite bits from this gallery and read out some of the suggestions to your partner.

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