It was a conversation at a New Years’ Eve party two years ago that pushed Melbourne couple Trina and Trevor Dando towards having babies via surrogate.
“We met someone and she hadn’t had children and she said that was one of her biggest regrets in life,” Trevor tells Mamamia. “I think that’s what made Trina go and investigate surrogacy.”
At that point, the Dandos had already been trying to have children for eight years. They’d been through 10 cycles of IVF. Trina had gone through 22 egg transfers. She’d also had a donor egg implanted into her.
“I was pregnant three times and I lost three,” Trina says. “I think after the seventh cycle, I started to break up a bit. But you just have to deal with those things and fight for what you want.”
The Dandos had also looked at adoption, but they felt they couldn’t wait for as long as it might take for a child to become available. Trevor is in his 50s, and Trina in her late 40s.
Trina began investigating surrogacy. Cambodia, Thailand and India have all clamped down on commercial surrogacy recently, but the couple decided to look into the Ukrainian option.
“Surrogacy is a part of their legislation,” Trevor explains. “It’s quite out in the open.” He says under Ukraine law, the intended parents of a child are considered to be biological parents from the moment of conception.
Through an agency called Lotus Surrogacy, the Dandos began making plans. They flew to Kiev, where they met with the surrogate they had chosen, Tatiana.
“She’s great,” Trina says. “She’s about 10 years younger than I am. I’m an accountant, she’s an accountant, her husband’s an engineer, Trevor’s an engineer.”
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It's a shame surrogacy is so hard to do in Australia....I have always wanted to be one after i had my family