Dee Tozer is an experienced couples psychologist and transformational relationship repair expert. She is a master coach with a focus on couples in crisis because of infidelity.
In all seven types of couples, one or both partners are vulnerable to kind attention from a third person because in each scenario one or both do not feel like they matter to the other one. They don’t feel valued, admired or important.
Here are the seven couples types vulnerable to affairs.
1. The bickering argumentative couple.
Here both partners want to be right. Want to win the point. This is where neither listens to the other, hence neither feels heard which then leads to a habitual argumentative style over minor day-to-day occurrences.
It follows that going from this bickering at home to an understanding colleague at work can build a warm connection where one feels heard and matters, it’s fertile soil for romance to blossom.
2. The friends but no passion 'roommates' couple.
This scenario may bring comfort and a fairly harmonious life day in day out, however with no spark or passionate buzz, no lovemaking, the couple bond weakens over time.
These couples tend to be more out and about solo and cross paths with many opportunities to be noticed by a third party. This could be in the workplace or in sporting groups. These days ‘meetup’ groups are nearby everywhere.
It is well known that romance thrives where interests are similar because there is so much in common to talk about which can lead to forming a deep connection. It’s a tiny shift from being nice and friendly to being cheeky and flirty.