“No matter how difficult it may seem at the time, put them to sleep in their own crib and avoid the greatest pain that one can experience in life–the pain that we are now experiencing.”
It is heartbreaking to read.
A mother’s words so raw you can’t help but catch your breath.
A personal story so close for so many of us that you are left with disbelief.
How can this happen? I did this. I remember. There but for the grace of god.
Young mother Angela Bono, from Grand Rapids, Michigan in the US thought she was doing everything right with her baby boy Everett.
In May her partner, Ryan Carmody came home to find her asleep with their five-month old baby in their bed.
She writes on Facebook “We didn’t think an accident could ever happen to us, until the night Ryan came home to Everett and I sleeping together and Everett not breathing. As soon as he woke me up, I immediately started CPR, and we called 911. But it was too late. We had lost him. “
At five months old Everett had died after co-sleeping with his mother – a practise they thought they were doing safely.
She has made a plea through Facebook asking for other parents not to make the same mistake she did. A plea so other families don’t go through the heartache she has.
“Anyone with infants, don’t put them in the bed with you. So many things can happen accidentally, and like I said, we never thought it would happen to us. Now, I’ve lost the love of my life. My angel. My baby boy. We have to get the word out so more people understand that it can happen to them. It does happen. It does happen a lot. As much as you love to snuggle and cuddle your little one, please resist the temptation to do so in bed. No matter how difficult it may seem at the time, put them to sleep in their own crib and avoid the greatest pain that one can experience in life–the pain that we are now experiencing.”
It is a controversial topic fraught with emotions on both sides of the debate.
In Australia 80% of parents admit to co-sleeping with their babies at some time in the first 6 months of life.
Various studies have examined deaths related to co-sleeping but one of the biggest, a study in 2013 from Birmingham City University examined 1,500 cases of SIDS. It revealed that an estimated 88 per cent of deaths that occurred while a child slept with their parents would not have happened if the baby had not been bed-sharing.
Tragically experts say that in the desperately sad case of baby Everett if he had not been co-sleeping he may be alive today.
His mother, Angela wants to spread the word – co-sleeping can kill. She wants his death to be remembered.