Perth blogger Constance Hall has described an unwanted sexual experience she had been “too ashamed” to tell anyone about.
In a candid social media post, the mum told her followers the #MeToo movement and discussions of consent had got her thinking about her own sexual experiences and what sex had meant when she was younger.
She also shared a chilling memory that typifies just why these discussions need to take place.
“I remember waking up to a man having sex with me, too ashamed over how much I had drank and not being able to remember how we ended up in bed, I didn’t tell anyone,” she wrote.
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Hall said rather than confront the man she “gathered my things, even thanked him for a fun night and ran”. She also said she felt how others’ saw her prevented her from reporting the encounter as sexual assault.
“I felt that my reputation as a party girl cancelled out my ability to be a victim. How stupid is that?”
“So I find the spotlight on consent a much-needed one.”
Hall said that because in her youth “consent” wasn’t in their vocabulary, “a lot of misconduct and rape was overlooked”.
The mum and step-mum to six children – with one on the way – pondered how in 2018, parents can best teach their children about sex and consent, saying she wasn’t sure she agreed with some suggestions, such as an app that logs consent.