When David Brinkley decided to share a story about his wife on the widely-read Facebook page Love What Matters, his intention was probably two-fold. First, to encourage fathers to respect and care for their wives, and second, to communicate – in a very public way – how much he appreciates his wife.
What he likely didn’t expect, however, was for the post to take on a life of its own, igniting an impassioned debate about co-sleeping.
On Sunday, Brinkley wrote on the page that his wife is a “best friend kind of woman” who spends “hours upon hours” of time on the phone chatting to her friends.
“Recently she was talking to a friend and they were talking about this thing called ‘co-sleeping’ and I heard the other person ask ‘doesn’t your husband hate that? My husband would never let me do that.’ This blew my mind and has bothered me for days. So I just decided to come out as a man and set a few things straight,” he began.
Going on to add that he would “never degrade or disregard anything she feels like doing for [the] children”, Brinkley argued men should appreciate and respect the decisions their wives make.
“Do I have to squeeze into a small corner of the bed sometimes? Yeah? But my God how beautiful does she look holding my children? Making them feel loved and safe? The thing is that our wives only experience these little seasons in motherhood for a short time. They carry our babies, they birth them, they nurture them and maybe while they are little they let them crawl into our beds and snuggle,” he wrote.
But despite intending to encourage husbands to support co-sleeping, a debate of a different kind arose, with many health professionals voicing their concerns about the reckless way co-sleeping was championed in the post.
“Love that you love your kids and your wife, and clearly you do. With that said, I work with CPS in the fatality unit and it is extremely dangerous to sleep with babies age one year and younger. Practice safe sleep,” one wrote.