Cameron Diaz has opened up to Esquire magazine about how she was ‘never drawn to being a parent.’
The 41-year-old Other Woman star told the magazine:
“It’s so much more work to have children, to have lives besides your own that you are responsible for – I didn’t take that on. That did make things easier for me.”
“A baby – that’s all day, every day for 18 years. Not having a baby might really make things easier, but that doesn’t make it an easy decision. I like protecting people, but I was never drawn to being a mother. I have it much easier than any of them. That’s just what it is. Doesn’t mean life isn’t sometimes hard. I’m just what I am. I work on what I am. Right now, I think, things are good for me. I’ve done a lot. And I don’t care anymore.”
This isn’t the first time the actress has spoken out about her ‘unconventional life choices’. At the start of the year, RadarOnline reported: “During Oscar weekend, Cameron insisted to friends that she is fine and dealing well with life, despite not having a steady man for the last few years.”
To which Mamamia publisher and founder Mia Freedman wrote at the time:
The pressure to be a ‘yummy mummy’ should not be underestimated. But the idea that you’ve somehow failed as a woman unless you’re a mother is an even more destructive and condescending crock.
Two years ago, Mamamia ran a story about a couple who chose to be child free, in the wake of Diaz’s comments we thought we’d revisit the idea.
This is a post by Jess van Den and this is her story:
Nick (my husband) and I are child-free. That is, we have made the deliberate choice to not have children.
I believe that this topic is too often glossed over or ignored in our society – but I also believe that it’s an important one to discuss.
Today I wanted to let you in on our decision, in the hopes that it might help some people who choose to have children understand those of us who don’t a little better!
Those of us who are childfree (we prefer that term to ‘childless’ – because childless usually implies that you want kids but can’t have them, and I am not speaking for those people today) often keep our mouths shut about our decision. You would think that the decision to not have children would be happily embraced these days along with every other lifestyle choice.
However, (and this is, I believe, especially true for women) there is still a pervasive sense in our society that if you are a person who doesn’t want children – or even worse, doesn’t really like children – that there is something just a little bit wrong with you.
(On a personal note – I’m one of those women who is not interested in babies, I never have been. And as for children – in my mind they are just little people. I don’t like them more or less than big people, but my like of them is dependent on the same things that make me like a grown-up. The fact that little kids are often loud and self-absorbed means I generally like little kids less than older ones.)
We hear the endless pronouncements that ‘you’ll change your mind when you’re older/when you hit your 30s’, that having kids is ‘the best thing I’ve ever done!’, that ’it’s different when they’re yours’ or ‘you’d make wonderful parents’. Our parents tell us that they can’t wait to have grandchildren.