Recently, Tanya Hennessy spoke about the time that a former bully reached out to her via Facebook to apologise.
Like Tanya, I was bullied on and off for most of my high school years. I also received an apology from one of my bullies.
In some ways, the apology changed my life. It gave me a freedom from feelings that I lived with for most of my adult life. It wasn’t as simple as ‘I’m sorry’ and just like magic my life was transformed. If only it was that easy.
Tanya Hennessy talks about her high school bully on I’m a Celebrity… Get Me Out of Here. Post continues below.
We like to think that when school ends, so too does the bullying. In many ways it did. What didn’t end for me were the long-lasting impacts of bullying and the changes I made to myself to protect my heart from ever feeling that way again.
In early 2018, I was added to a Facebook group for a school reunion. In an instant, I was transported straight back to a time that I had buried deep inside but never forgot.
The bullying was at times physical. There was a class I had where the majority of other students made it their mission to get me to cry every lesson and there were others who would ‘let’ me be their friend if I met their conditions. I did everything I could to fit in but nothing seemed to last for any length of time. Every time I would just start to feel comfortable or just a little bit accepted, the goalposts would move.
From the moment I entered the Facebook group, it was as if I was back in the science classroom with the wobbly stools and the green peeling paint on the walls. I could hear the boys muttering “Ralph or Jabba” behind their hands but loud enough that others in the class would hear and laugh as I walked through the classroom.