“Stop playing the victim” is perhaps the last thing you would think to instruct a bullied child, but Melbourne private boys’ school Brighton Grammar is under fire for endorsing precisely this advice.
In a post that is drawing backlash, counsellor and self-described ‘resilience coach’ Melissa Anderson told parents to ask themselves whether their tormented child was part of the problem.
She wrote on the school website: “If your son is currently being bullied, in the spirit of cleaning up your side of the street … is he part of the problem? Even 5%? Is he a whinger, a complainer, self-absorbed, an exaggerator, loose with the truth, a passive doormat, displaying negative body language, an approval addict, a try hard, critical or a bad sport?”