What’s the best compliment you could receive as a parent?
That your children are well behaved?
That they are polite or do well at school?
That they are sporty or nicely presented?
But what compliments do you actually get? When you think back.. are they like the ones I hear?
My four-year-old daughter asked me the other day why people always talk about her hair?
She has apricot coloured ringlets. She hates them but strangers feel an urgent need to touch them, to talk about them, to compliment me about them... (when really I had no say in them whatsoever).
Oh her hair is so lovely, they say.
When it comes to my sons, people compliment me about their long dark eyelashes and their dark hair as though I spent all night crafting them from silken thread.
What I find about most compliments is that they are driven from my children’s appearance.
Spend any time in a Facebook mother's group and you will realise that compliments are rare amongst mothers these days.
Instead, we focus upon pulling each other down, sniping.
But do you ever wonder what mums really want to hear?
Well here is a start - there are a few things.
You are doing a good job.
Your children are kind.
Your children are positive.
But it wasn’t until a chance encounter with a stranger the other day when I realised what the greatest compliment of all was for me.
Now this is one happy baby. (Post continues after video)