We play this game in our office.
The idea is, you go around the room and talk about the one thing you’ve done that week that’s kick-arse.
Things like “I NAILED this presentation.” or “I just wrote the most HILARIOUS article and I love myself sick for it” or “I am actually really happy with the way I look today.”
As you can imagine, everyone hates this game.
People shift uncomfortably in their seats. No one makes eye contact. People excuse themselves to go to the toilet or casually jump out the window.
It’s not just us though. We asked women on the street to play the game too. It did not go well.
Why do women find self-promotion so awkward?
The reason we give the credit away, deflect, shrink and we dismiss it? Because Sandberg cites research that shows a woman’s success is inversely proportional to her likeability.
So basically, the more successful a woman is, the less she is liked.
(It’s the opposite for men, in case you were wondering.)
So it is any wonder, given women’s propensity to want to be liked, that we play down our success?