Being the child of an affair, I can say with experience, the ones who will suffer the most from the choices of Barnaby Joyce and Vikki Campion will be his children, the ones already born, and the one yet to be.
My past has been shaped by the choices of my mother and father, who had an affair, and I know that it is a factor that impacts every morsel of your being. There is a conflict of emotions and endless questions but there are never simple answers or resolutions.
After reading the various articles from individuals who wish to comment on those involved in affairs and speculate as to why they have them, I can say that this won’t help the situation. It won’t help those who are hurting from it.
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Kate Langbroek simply grouping all these women as the same “bad people” is far from an accurate description of the millions of women who have been in Vikki Campion’s shoes. The fact is, it’s complicated, it is personal, it changes from circumstance to circumstance.
One social commentator, Kerri Sackville, stated affairs come from one four letter word- lust. This is honestly one of the most ridiculous things I have ever heard. Like Langbroek’s comments it is an overly simplified explanation for something that in the majority of situations has no simple answer.
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This was a very levelling piece. Thank you for sharing your experience. I agree with everything you have written. Only those who have actually been there can understand.
So as a child of an affair you know the children will hurt the most?
Pretty ridiculous assumption. Have you been the spouse that has been cheated on?
Cheated on someone?
Got stats to back up your opinion?
Perhaps you should look up the definition of ‘opinion’.
It is stated as a fact.
Children are still developing, learning about the world, who they are, what their values are - all of these aspects would be impacted by an affair and the way it is handled by both adults. Their needs are also very different to that of a full grown adult. I'm not trying to minimise the pain and difficulty of the adults in the situation, just acknowledging that the children are innocent, often still in their formative years and this can have a deep impact.
Couldn't agree more. But none of that indicates it affects children more.
You could just as easily say that it hurts worse for adults because they are set in their ways and someone they love tore their life apart. Children are still developing, and can therefore work through the issue easier.