If you are having problems with your boss, your parents could share the blame, according to a new study.
University of Alabama researchers looked at attachment theory to try and better understand relationships in the workplace.
“It seems cliché, but, once again, we end up blaming mum for everything in life,” researcher Dr Peter Harms told UA News.
“It really is about both parents, but because mothers are typically the primary caregivers of the children, they usually have more influence on their children.”
Researchers looked at two dysfunctional attachment styles (anxious and avoidant attachment), to study how they relate to leader-follower relationships.
“Anxiously attached people genuinely want to be loved, but they are nervous that the important people in their lives won’t return their affection,” said Dr Harms.
“So, they overreact anytime they think their relationships are threatened. They use guilt and extreme emotional displays so that others will stay near and reassure them. They get really upset and can’t turn it off. On the other hand, avoidant people feel, ‘I don’t want to love you, and you don’t need to love me. So just leave me alone.’ You won’t find these people weeping over broken relationships,” he said.
Avoidant attachment employees had lower levels of stress and didn’t help co-workers as much as other employees. They really didn’t care as much.
Anxious attachment employees suffered from higher stress levels when teamed with an unsupportive leader but they did OK with supportive leaders.
“This notion of attachment and secure attachment is very important but you have to build it,” Professor Judith McLean told Mamamia.