This is what grief looks like.

Video by Mamamia Women's Network.

Content warning: This post deals with the death of a child.

A gut-wrenching image of a father holding his son, who died just 30 minutes after he was born with a fractured skull, is grief in its rawest form.

The death of Marty Tonkin’s son Nixon in June 2014 at a Brisbane hospital is the subject of a coronial inquiry. It’s alleged that a midwife’s mistake during the birthing process may have caused the head injury that ultimately killed the infant.

Relative Simone Valentine posted a loving tribute to Marty on Friday, accompanying a black-and-white photo of the father cradling his son.

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“Meet Marty. He is Nixon’s dad – gentle-souled, loves his family, is Simone (Tonkin)’s loving husband, daddy to Nixon and now sweet Knox (2),” Valentine wrote.

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Valentine said Marty was emotionally the “strongest man” she had met, recounting the “soul-breaking” task he took on during Nixon’s funeral.

“(He) carried Nixon’s casket in at his service and how he made his legs move with the soul breaking task ahead is seriously a moment I personally will never forget.”

Valentine went on to describe the “wonderful dad” and “great mate” as someone who “works endlessly at his family business” and supports his wife.

Listen: Sometimes, it’s beneficial to to structure our grief.

The mum-of-two ended the post with an impassioned plea for donations towards the MyCause page the family set up to support the Tonkins.

“I just thought you should know a little about him and how much of a relief and load off his shoulders it will be when we hit this target and he can start to slow a little, catch his breath and let us have his back for a little.”

To help the Tonkin family, click here.

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