I hardly dated as a teenager, so you can imagine how shocked I was when in my mid-twenties, I was in love with two men, and both of them wanted to marry me. Even talking about it now brings back that feeling of shock and surprise.
The first prospective husband was the man I had been dating for four years, and had recently moved in with. Our relationship was really hard and filled with challenges. He was older, had a bitter ex-wife and two children and a difficult mother.
On paper, this man was all wrong for me. We had completely different backgrounds, beliefs, family values, hobbies, even food preferences. It was so, so wrong.
The second prospective husband was the man I had loved since I was a teenager. He was a family friend and I’d loved him secretly, never for one second dreaming that one day he may love me back.
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On paper, he was perfect. My family already knew him and loved him. We had practically had the same childhood, we were the same nationality, the same religion. We both valued our families above all others and even liked to do the same things. It was so, so perfect.
But my ‘perfect on paper’ man was a risk. We’d never even officially dated before. Was I willing to walk away from a four year relationship with a man I loved to risk it with the man I had always loved?
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I find this article strange, you chose the guy who was bitter and you had a hard relationship with? I get that the other guy is unknown and may not have worked out and that love isn't all roses, but surely someone who is bitter and yhe relationship is hard is not the ideal man either.
Also I feel if you are in a dilemma like this then probably neither man is right, thoug you can't really make this judgement about the second guy because you didn't actually date him who knows whether he would have been ideal for you.
I don't understand how the first guy worked out, did he just magically change when you got married? Or is the relationship still "hard". You say you have no regrets, but are you actually happy?
I realised I misread this and you said his ex wife was bitter not him, but it just still sounds not an ideal relationship, as it is described as hard and you had nothing in common, so I'm still confused why you chose him.
Loved the article till the " Australia" poster. Worst movie ever!
Agree! I fell asleep half way through....sooo boring!