According to research, almost half of us have engaged in anal sex. But women are rarely honest about what this experience entails, what the risks are, and what we should be prepared for.
So we’ve sourced the most graphic anal sex horror stories from our office and the web, in order to explore the reality behind a sexual act which is taboo unlike any other.
Hygiene first.
“Okay, so when my husband and I first met we went a bit crazy and had a lot of anal sex. I sort of liked it for a while but it took A LONG TIME to be ready for it, if you know what I mean? Now we haven’t done it in years. But what happened was we sort of were in this weird sexual phase were we were conflicted between vaginal and anal and just random stabbing in random holes (WHAT THE HELL WERE WE THINKING).
So my husband started doing both and I ended up with a horrible infection that smelled like a rat had crawled up my vag and died. I didn’t realise it was because of our irresponsible sexual behaviour until the FOURTH time I had to go to the doctor and he was like, “What are you guys doing? Don’t you know that once you go to the back during sex you can’t go back to the front?” He referred me to a sex education course. I was MORTIFIED.
So we stopped doing that and would pick a hole before hand. But he would still do oral all over the place and I ended up with that infection again. I went to a DIFFERENT doctor and was treated and am sooooo careful now. For ages he’d accidentally go there, it gets slippery down there, and as soon as his penis went anywhere NEAR the back, no matter how slight, I’d be like, “Okay hon, we’re done” and jump in the shower and scrub so I didn’t end up with that infection again.
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First story, Sarah,....um I think the dr was right to refer you on. Seriously, if you were taught to always wipe front to back to avoid infection then why wouldn't you be hygienic in your sexual practices?? That's grotty.
An awful lot of those "half of women" will have been coerced (there is no way that the pre-mainstreaming-of-porn generation of women were doing anal sex). There is just too much porn influence on everyday sex these days. I find it incredibly sad. The greatest sex I've had has always been emotionally lovely, sex-toy-free, anal-free, weird-free and deep.
HUGE call to say that a lot of the women doing anal have been "coerced" into doing something. There is a massive difference between trying something that you hear about all the time because you're curious/you think you might be into it/you want to tick it off your bucket list and being coerced/forced into it.
I agree that porn culture has changed the 'norms' of sex. The benefit of that is that people (including women) are able to explore what turns them on and what they enjoy far more freely without fear of judgement. The downside is that your partner might be curious/into more extreme things than you, so you have to be comfortable setting your boundaries. But I have never had a friend suggest they've been coerced into anal. Coerced into (vaginal) sex when they were young - absolutely. But not anal.