If you’re planning on staying at home with bub, these are the things you need to know.
Whether you choose to be home with your kids 100-percent or are thrust into it by accident, one thing’s for sure: You have no idea what you’re getting into. Here, 21 things we wish someone (anyone!) had told us before we made being a mum our full-time job.
1. There’s a giant learning curve.
It doesn’t matter how old your kids are when you decide to take the plunge, but there’s a rather sizeable learning curve to get over once you become a full-fledged stay-at-homer. (Had a flexible schedule prior? You’re not immune to the curve. Don’t be fooled.) It’s almost as if someone wakes you up, spins you in a circle and yells GO at you every morning.
It takes a while (months, even) to get your head around your new situation and to hammer out some sort of routine. You might be shocked by how much you miss the structure and relative ease of knowing what you have to do all day at the office. At work, the machinery was in place to get things done. At home, you are the machinery and the machinery breaks down a lot.
2. Your workday never ends.
As soon as your eyes open in the morning (or the middle of the night), you are at work. Boom. Your workday has begun, pre-shower, pre-pee, pre-everything. Granted, working mums wake up to the same exact thing. The difference? Mums who work out of the home get to experience that much-needed transition time from hectic-crazy-wake-up to civilsed-start-of-the-day. There's the commute, that stop for coffee, the chat with the office mate -- all of it allows Mama to exhale and start fresh. Stay-at-homers, well, that transition is gone and you'll miss it.
3. You might be lonely at first.
The life of a stay-at-homer can be isolating, especially when you have a new baby. So sign up for a mums' group and mix and mingle with the parents at the coffee shop, the park and tumbling class. You’ll need to leap out of your comfort zone, introduce yourself to strangers and hand out your number. It's like being single without the dinner-and-movie thing. But even one mum friend can be life-changing, so start small and the rest will fall into place.