Are you considering trying to reconcile with your unfaithful husband? Although many women try at least once, and many try several times to reconcile, you could be getting more than you can deal with over the long run.
After discovering that my husband of 15 years was having an affair with a single co-worker, I tried every possible thing I could think of to convince him to come back home.
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Since had just moved across the country from our relatives and into a brand new home one year before for his work promotion, I was convinced he was having a mid-life crisis and would snap out of his selfish coma and come to realise the error of his ways.
I cried, hoped and prayed every day that he would return to help me raise our three children, who ranged in age from 3 to 13 years old. When our children asked where their dad was, I explained he needed time away from our home “to think about his decisions". Unfortunately for all of us, his concerns for me and the children ranked very low on his list of priorities.
During the months of our separation, he stopped by twice a week to see the kids and when I asked what his plans were he would vaguely reply, “It’s complicated". As February turned into May, I began to wonder whether he had any real intention of moving back home.
One day in May, after getting the kids on their buses for school, I opened the front door and was served with a petition for divorce for irreconcilable differences. Along with it came a motion for a financial restraining order that informed me that I wasn’t allowed to use any of our joint credit cards from that moment forward - something that scared me to the bone as a stay-at-home mum.
