There isn’t a week that goes by without a fellow parent saying something along the lines of, “Jeez, having twins must be so difficult”.
Yes, it’s true. Having twins is super hard… but only really for the first few months.
I know that’s controversial, but I feel like it’s my duty as a first-time parent who happens to make a living writing about this to let you in on a little secret… having twins is much easier than having just one child. There, I said it.
Hear me out.
Listen to Mia Freedman’s podcast, No Filter, where she speaks with Sean Szeps and his husband Josh, about raising twins. Post continues below.
#1 – You’ll get more outside support.
You’re much more likely to get support from friends and family when you have twins, mainly because they feel terrible for the amount of work you have to do.
That, and you’ll get offers long past the baby phase.
#2 – The kids play together.
Because twins have a built-in buddy system from day one, you’ll get a lot more opportunities for guilt-free alone time. Instead of feeling bad about not giving them enough attention while you swipe through Instagram, you can happily double-tap knowing they’re busy playing with their best mate.
#3 – They learn sharing and patience faster.
Unlike singletons, twins are forced to learn how to share and be patient much earlier in life. This makes the transition to daycare a bit easier, and the terrible twos much more manageable for you.
#4 – Twins are the best excuse.
Not keen on going to the Christmas party? Want to leave early from the bat mitzvah? Just say “the twins” and you’re good to go. The fact that you have two small humans means you’ll not only commit to less but you’ll have a ‘Get Out of Jail Free’ card to use whenever you need it.
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Sorry but no. I am a mother of twins. It was NOT easier. Clearly you didn’t have to recover from a twins pregnancy and delivery, nor breastfeed. No parent of twins or person supporting parents of twins would say this. You are clearly coming from a place of male privilege.
I'm a first time parent as well with twins and I cannot say for a fact which is harder since i never just had one baby. Personally i think there are hard and easier aspects to both. I definitely would not write an article saying it's easy though. Maybe for you it was but many others would disagree so maybe positioning your article differently would help. My pregnancy was a long and difficult one filled with many complications I wouldnt wish on anybody. The first 6 months were long, exhausting and filled with many tears- mine and the babies. Did it get easier? Yes. But it would also get easier for a mother of a single child. I barely get out of the house myself since dealing with two babies out of house is more difficult then one. Two screaming babies at once is more difficult then one. Sorry but your article is only your perspective and on your babies. It is ignorant and sheds a wrong misconception.