I have one child, he’s almost two-years-old, and my close friends aren’t asking if I am having another one – they are encouraging me to embrace the “one and done” phenomenon.
Having an only child may well be a trend, but I can’t prove it. Even the Australian Bureau of Statistics can’t prove it – it’s tricky to track.
“It’s really difficult to know when a family has stopped having children. No one asks that. The government never asks people that so we don’t have any information on that, ” says ABS Demographer Alex Cleland told Mamamia.
In my case, having a child later in life has left less time for more.
Charlie, a few days old, babbles with his Grandmother. Post continues after video.
My grandmother had seven children. That was what happened back in the day in a small mostly catholic country town. Then my mother, a middle child who gained the attention of the family with a teen pregnancy, matched her mother with five children of her own – and two step-children.
I am from a big complicated blended family. My sister is one of nine. She has a brother and sister that I wouldn’t recognise in the street and I am not related to them at all. I have two ex-step-parents. I also ran into an ex-aunt on the weekend.
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I am one and done but I feel very much in the minority. Most people around me have 3 kids. My daughter is in year 1 and she and another girl are the only 2 kids in the class without a sibling.
I have one boy, who is happy, social and not spoilt. He makes friends easily and they value his company. I do think there are more only children these days than in previous generations and there is a difference. My father in law and step father were both only children and were lonely but their parents were not involved with them as we are with our son, they were left to their own devices, it was the "children should be seen and not heard" era. We are one unit, we jump on the tramp, do 1v1 basketball, go bike riding - all that and just to be clear, he loves his space as well. He is also involved in sport a couple of times a week, which I believe is really important for an only. I also was an only child for the first 15 years of my life and I don't remember being lonely. Yes there are challenges, school holidays are the best example of that, but I love our family unit and we are comfortable with our choice (of course I doubt myself, from time to time, but thats just mother guilt and not helpful or productive). I do hope that he finds his own family before we shuffle off but in the meantime, we foster an attitude of positivity and resilience,no matter what the situation so he doesn't go through life feeling sorry for himself for any reason.
Good luck with you family !!