There has been a recurring theme in the last two evenings – the first two episodes – of Channel 7’s First Dates.
Great dates. Lots of laughter. Funny, sometimes smart, often awkward, conversation. Things looking as promising as a first-date-on-reality-TV can possibly look…
And it’s all followed by one wet rag of an excuse: “There’s just no spark”.
First, it was Clare and Aaron on Monday night.
They were both looking for someone with a sense of humour. She was after someone to “embrace her quirks”. He was after “someone quirky”.
But, come the end of the date they’re sitting in front of the camera and deciding on whether to go on a second date… Aaron said, “For me, it just felt like there was no spark”.
Then, there was Matt and Eden on last night's episode.
He loves rugby and his number one concern was finding someone who also loves rugby. She's from New Zealand and - you guessed it - loves rugby. They spent the evening discussing life and rugby and New Zealand and rugby and him being "single for life" and now wanting to be "taken for life" and then back to rugby.
The date ended. Eden faced Matt like a boss and said "yes", she thought a second date would be nice. He turned to her and said he "didn't feel a spark". He could see them "hanging out as friends" maybe even watching a "Bledisloe Australia vs. New Zealand game" but, unfortunately, zero spark.
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The spark is the result of people buying into the Disney fantasy. Life is just not like that. The spark, or chemistry or love at first sight, whatever you want to call it is not a sound basis for a relationship, or for not dating. I agree, the spark is bs. It is a hormonal reaction to pheromones. Grow up people, we're not 15 anymore.
Respectfully, I disagree completely. If I don't feel anything for a guy on a date, that is what I call not feeling a spark. 'Spark' can also be a metaphor for a lot of things, and I am sure as hell not waiting for three months while I'm kayaking with a guy to find it.