And… publish. ‘Hey, Jude’ went live. I suppose it was kind of like one of those things I just had to do. Tell my side of the story – finally.
When I left Kurt, and consequentially, my military friendships, I never got to say, ‘This is why I’m leaving.’ Weeks after I left, and returned to Sydney, I heard whispers that he informed our friends that I had left because I “couldn’t handle being a military partner”. I spread the word as best I could that he, in fact, cheated on me. That’s why I left. I didn’t choose this. This wasn’t what I wanted.
However, like many people who were friendly with Officer Kurt, they placed him on a pedestal, and I was deemed a liar. According to his friends, and even his parents, I left because, after four years of moving around and doing long-distance, I apparently couldn’t handle the ups and down of military life. What could I do? My word against his. So, I cut ties with all bar one or two military wives and moved on with my life. As best as I could.
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It took me a year to get over it. It took me a good year to find my feet again and get over the distrust. Come June this year, it will have been five years since I moved back to Sydney. Five years since I’ve been in a relationship that’s lasted any longer than three months. And, yes, I certainly do wonder if Kurt is one of the reasons for this. He changed me – partly for better, partly for worse.
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Simone I hear you. I had something very similar. My ex was living with me when he 'had to spend Christmas with my family' our first Christmas together. I found out a year later that he had instead spent most of that time with another woman - who happened to be married. Looking back now, our relationship was held together by one lie after another, and even though I stuck by him through his subsequent serious medical conditions, he didn't stop cheating - trawling 'hookup' sites when he couldn't physically perform anymore. It was such a damaging relationship and in hindsight I should have got out before I did. Of course, he told everyone that I couldn't handle his illness, and conveniently didn't mention the cheating or abuse. I'm now 9 months on from kicking him out, and I'm just starting to heal.
It DOES take time to get over things like this. He's not your story anymore, you have to completely leave that in the past now. I totally 'get' that you had to tell your side of the story. The unfairness of it all still gets to me sometimes too. But now it's told, you can take a deep breath and heal from him xx Best of everything for your future ...
I agree with Keyla. Move on. Good for you that you didn't end up with him, but why on earth would you publish this now, when Belle has just had a baby with him? I'm sure that's exactly what she needs to be thinking about or reminded about right now. How cruel.
Maybe he's changed and maybe he hasn't but it was totally unnecessary to publish this.