Dawn Pieke ended a long term relationship at age 40 when her boyfriend cheated on her.
Her baby dream seemed to be dissolving as she didn’t like the idea of an anonymous sperm donor (she wanted dad in her baby’s life); and time was running out.
Then Dawn discovered a Facebook group set up to connect men and women who want to have children, but unlike dating sites, romantic love isn’t the name of the game.
Through Facebook, Dawn met Australian Fabian Blue, a gay man desperately keen to raise a child. He told Buzzfeed:
‘I literally woke up out of a dream and had this vision of a newborn child, like a mission. I get the benefits of marriage without the sexual-romantic destabilization. But how was I going to accomplish that, being an out gay man and not successful in my relationships with men?’ he added.
After exploring Co-ParentMatch [a website for people looking to co-parent], he found Ms Pieke on Facebook and the pair began speaking on Skype. Ms Pieke explained it was ‘even more intense than when you first start dating somebody,’ as they spoke about their spiritual beliefs, medical histories, families, and parenting values. It was one of those things that was meant to be.’
Fabian then decided to move to the U.S from Australia so the two co-parents could co-parent their daughter- Indigo Pieke-Blue who was born in October.
So do you really need all the palaver that goes with meeting someone special and falling in love when what you really want is to be a parent? It seems not, as thousands of people are turning to social sites like Facebook to find someone they like well enough to co-parent with.
It makes logical sense. Falling in love and maintaining that love takes a lot of effort – even the most together couples will experience tensions over why sex isn’t what it was when they first got together and whether or not a flame is still burning for the formal partner you bumped into at the shops.
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I am dad for 3 years on the principle of co-parenting, and it works so well that we have 2 children. So it works! I found my mom on co-co-parents.net for those looking.
I honestly think that in order to uphold a successful and functioning relationship yourself, you need to witness parents who can do that - whether they be a same sex or opposite sex couple. I learned to love by watching my parents love. Similarly, my ex learned to abuse and manipulate by watching her parents do it. I question how this child will learn about relationships by watching two 'friends' together in the same house. Very odd indeed. There has to be a limit to liberal thinking, a line drawn somewhere. This would be it.
Wow I guess the same could be said for single mothers or fathers when it comes to giving an example of a successful relationship to a child then? Children also learn to love by being shown love from their entire family. While this kind of relationship is rare, who are you to judge and say that it's odd and not acceptable? They obviously like and respect each other and with sex not on the cards, perhaps there will be no bitterness and anger in this household. I say good on them!
I grew up in a very Abusive loveless household it was a child nightmare. I'm a very loving wife and mother who is not abusive and people who meet me tend to have no idea about my beginnings. It's very easy to judge when you haven't had to fight and claw your way out of a child hood like that.
I was raised by co parents. Now in my thirties, I am married with a family of my own. Don't be so quick to judge.