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by MIA FREEDMAN

Welcome to our Open Post of the week, where you can come and talk about – well – whatever you like.

On Saturday night I got to go to the kind of event some people think is my regular life but actually never is. Richard Wilkins was holding a benefit to celebrate his 25 years in the industry and to raise money for the Down Syndrome Foundation. As he explained in his speech, he lost his virginity at 18 and on that night conceived Adam, who was born with Down Syndrome. Richard married Adam’s 16 year old mother and worked a variety of jobs including in an abattoir to help support his family.

By his own admission, he was not able to cope with the responsibility of a special needs son and Adam was placed into care where he thrived with his foster mum who was a special guest at Richard’s table on the night.

It really was one of those pinch-yourself evenings. Here are a few of my happy snaps along with our usual behind-the-scenes in the MM office:

Here's Mamamia managing editor Jamila and publisher Mia with the Prime Minister, Julia Gillard. They're having tea in her yard - as you do.

It really was like the Logies meets the ARIAS hall of fame on steroids. Leaving aside the guest list for a moment (every channel 9 star and music industry name you’ve ever heard of), performances included Noiseworks (Jon Stevens is still astonishingly sexy), The Little River Band, Neil Finn sang “Better Be Home Soon” on acoustic guitar via skype, Olivia Newton John sang Hopelessly Devoted To You and Xanadu (yes she did), Australian Crawl sang “Boys Light Up” and the Voice Judges performed U2′s One and something else I can’t remember because I was transfixed and swoony watching Keith Urban do guitar solos. Oh the hotness.

I had hugs with Delta Goodrem who wanted to thank MM readers for the support she got on this post which she credited for turning around the public hate that bubbled up early on in The Voice.

Nicole and Keith were at the next table with the other judges and I spent the night watching them as much as humany possible. They are as lovey-dovey when the cameras aren’t around as the images you see when they are. He drank water. They nuzzled and whispered to each other a lot. And Nicole got up and rocked out in her chair with everyone else, every time someone performed a classic Aussie song.

Apparently she had a shoot at 7am the next day but was still on the dancefloor when I left at 12:30.

The food was by Luke Mangan – an amazing salmon entree and then my favourite: pie with mushy peas and mash for main. Tomato sauce bottles on every table. I took as many photos as I could. Had a few too many wines and woke up with a bad headache and two children who were oblivious to my hangover and were just as demanding as every other day of the week. My own fault.

Took them to the park, collapsed on the grass and noticed there were quite a few other parents in a similar subdued state. Solidarity.

Was awesome fun though. Richard is truly a legend and one of the nicest guys you could ever meet in any industry. Big heart, big hair. And big something else according to Karl Stefanovic who famously mentioned it in a speech launching Dickie’s book last year.

If you’d like to see more of what’s happening behind the scenes in the office, be sure to follow us on Instagram – our username is MamamiaAUS. And you can follow me at MiaFreedman

PS – And if you missed the news that the fabulous food blogger Not Quite Nigella will be joining us here at Mamamia for the next few weeks, you can read all about it here, her story is a fascinating one. Her posts are coming to you courtesy of Dilmah’s High Tea challenge and she will be sharing mouth-watering morsels of information – guaranteed to transform the entire Mamamia readership into culinary superstars. Ahem.

So that’s what’s On My Mind (OMM) – what’s happening in your life?

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261 Comments so far

  1. SophieBee

    Nice to see that Jamila, the Mama Mia editor is still chummy with her old boss, Julia Gillard.

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  2. Peter Lawler

    Why haven’t u commented on the draconian workers compensation legislation that has just passed the nsw parliament. Surely u can see how it is going to affect both woman and men. I is irresponsible of u to avoid it

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  3. Mum of 2

    OMM: Do you ever feel like you have ‘finished’ having kids?

    I got talking to friends recently and neither of us feel ‘finished’ despite some of us having husbands who have had the *ahem* procedure done. :-) We just don’t have that ‘finished/ completed’ feeling that we figure maybe we are supposed to have, even though we accept that any more kids are very very unlikely. I’m curious how other Mums feel on this one? Does no one ever feel totally ‘finished’ and this is why so many people seem to get clucky over bubs? Or am I in the minority on this one? I’m really curious to hear other people’s views on this!!

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    • anon

      I knew with my last one I just couldnt cope getting up through the night any more and was more than happy to be finished. I have 4.

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    • Sneet

      When I fell pregnant with my third I knew I was “done”
      No matter what, I was never going to have another baby.
      I even spoke to my obstetrician about having my tubes tied during the birth, I was so sure I wasn’t going to go again.

      I also knew as soon as my second child was born that I “wasn’t done”.

      So yes, I think you do know when you are “finished”.

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    • carohutchison

      Yep totally finished. Not clucky, looking forward to the end of things, (nappies for example), and the beginning of others (easier to go out for the day and not rush home for sleeps).

      I’ve got three kids and can say that it does tip the dynamic a lot. Life is crazier with more kids than grown ups.

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    • anon

      Agreed. I knew I wasnt finished at no.3. But now after no.4 I look at babies and just feel tired and sorry for the mum rather than wanting to cuddle her baby.

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    • Lil

      I have three and I absolutely know I am done. The thought of another child to care for makes me nauseous. I love my children dearly but between work, family and social commitments I couldn’t imagine having enough resources for another child while maintaining my sense of self.

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      • Mum of 2

        I think I’m seeing a theme here… so I should have driven myself slightly crazy by contending with a third little person in the house (obviously I only have 2! :-) ) and I would definitely feel ‘finished’, LOL! :-)

        I am obviously just not busy enough to be having these thoughts in the first place!. :-) I never really had a figure in my head about how many kids I wanted, but hubby was pretty fixed on wanting only two. Circumstances meant that two were all we could handle at the time and by the time the dust settled the older two were kind of in the next stage and we would have been ‘going back’ by having the third bub if that makes sense – there would have been around a four year or so gap between the second and third which I wouldn’t have been happy with (the first two are close together). As each year passes the gap only gets bigger and I know that there are definitely advantages to being ‘out’ of the baby stage if you know what I mean. I guess I just sometimes feel a bit sad about never going back there again. Like moving away from a place that you have really fond memories of if you know what I mean?

        So no one else out there ever feels like this? Surely other mums feel a bit of ‘loss’ (for want of a better way to put it) when all their kids reach school age etc, and think to themselves ‘gee it would be nice to have a baby around again?’ even if only fleetingly?

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        • Peta

          Hi Mum of 2 – I’m totally with you. I have 2 gorgeous little girls and although the practical side of me loves our little family and knows that 2 is perfect I feel as though the door is still open for having a 3rd.

          After my first I knew I would have a second so it was easy to wait a year then try again for the 2nd. This time around I don’t know if we’re going to have a 3rd. I don’t feel as though we’re totally finished and I feel my clock ticking as I don’t want to be too old if we do have a 3rd. BUT, at the same time, I don’t have that burning desire to have another one like I did last time.

          So, I’m sitting in limbo land undecided as to whether we should keep our family of 4 or make it 5. My husband is exaxctly the same. We have moments of “lets have another one” then we think about the manageable age our girls are at, the fact we can go out to dinner with them and on holidays….and that baby stage just seems like so much work to do all over again!

          If you find the magic answer, let me know!

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  4. anon

    Mia, I saw you on the Today show yesterday and you looked STUNNING!!
    Please tell me where you bought that sparkly silver jacket/top from??? Love love love.

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  5. Lil

    Can you please clarify when Rick left, why he left and what he is doing now? I really miss his contributions and wish him all the best. Somehow I feel his departure went under the radar and he didn’t even say goodbye!

    I would be grateful for a response to this question. Thanks in advance.

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  6. bextraordinary

    Omm: cake.sitting in the fridge ready to be eaten as a late night snack, but I hear creepy noises in my hallway. It’s just not worth the fear factor lol.

    Omm: making a new employee agreement at work. Turned people against each other an making it really uncomfortable environment :(

    Omm; why am I paying $95 a day for my child to go to the best pre-school/ daycare when she comes home full of attitude and yukkiness :(

    Omm: begin my diploma of accounting next week. Any tips or advice from anyone? Nervous….

    Omm: things are great no scratch that FANTASTICwith other half ATM….why?! Or is it just our time finally?

    With so many omms it’s no wonder I can’t sleep! Or could that be the 4.5 cups of coffee I had today? You know what goes great with coffee…CAKE!

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    • anon

      Talk to your daughters carers. Maybe there is something going on in the playground they’re not aware of.

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  7. Olympia

    Where has WhipperSnapper gone? Haven’t seen her on here for ages. I used to enjoy her comments!

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  8. Anonymous

    Are you sure your link to the Down Syndrome Foundation is correct? It seems to be a US Foundation, not an Australian association. I think it is a wonderful cause, to support families and people with Down syndrome.

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  9. Phoodietweets

    OMM :

    Very very very veryveryveryyyyyyyy OVER the Mamamia slamming of late.

    I’m a long time supporter of this site, sure, but setting that aside, I think lots of these bashers forget that Mamamia is not jail….you don’t HAVE to be here! It is a FREE, easily accessible pool of information put together by a small group of hardworking, clever, in-touch, considerate individuals.

    For the size of this site i.e. the number of people it reaches, the “customer service” is astonishing! The personal touches, individual replies to comments, and the like are one of a kind. I challenge the haters to find this level of interaction elsewhere!?

    Instead of whining and calling the waaaaambulance over every undotted I and uncrossed T, readers should be thanking the contributors for giving us this online gift that I for one laugh at, cry with and everything in between, every single day…… And remember what grandma says, “PLEASE, if you don”t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all!”

    Note: I’m not saying that peeps shouldn’t offer constructive criticism and the like, this comment is aimed at the trolls and haters!

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    • Mia

      Thanks so much Phoodietweets.
      We’re doing our best.
      M xxxx

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      • Phoodietweets

        Thank-YOU and the team!

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  10. georgiepie

    OMM – retail sector complaining that we’re all shopping online and not doing ANYTHING to keep us in the shops! I went for a quick browse today, and was not helped once. I went up to a staff member and said ‘Sorry to bother you, could you tell me if there are any size 12s in this?’ (held up a blazer). She looked at me, barked “What?!”, I repeated my question and she replied “nah, don’t think so” then walked away… I’ve worked in retail before, I’m not a grumpy old snobby woman :) I know what customer service should be and that was not it. Went into another store, had 3 dresses and my wallet in my hand and the staff just kept chatting up the hot guys from the booth outside. They were babes I’ll admit, I’d be chatting that up, but STILL. I had a lovely fresh $50 note in my hand and I just walked straight back out again.

    If I’m not getting customer service I;m not giving you a sale buddy! I shop at a couple of local boutiques a lot because the owner knows us, she’s a massive help and has great quality stuff. If you don’t help me, I’m going to ASOS and ModCloth – their customer service is better than the ones down the road from me!

    ARGH rant over. I just want help goddamnit!

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    • D

      I wholeheartedly agree georgiepie! The exuberant prices don’t help either…

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  11. Bird

    It’s great seeing the photos of the benefit. I loved seeing photos of Lisa and Georgie as I only ever see them on the Today Show – how gorgeous are they?? I didn’t know about Richard Wilkin’s son. I love Jamila’s style!

    A couple of weeks ago I posted about being upset that my husband was about to move out. I received comments saying I was spineless and if I had a backbone I would have kicked him out earlier instead of letting it drag on for so long and allowing myself to be trodden over (or words to that effect). It has gone on for a while, and I wish we could have worked things out, but we wanted to do things carefully and to do things in a way that would minimise any negative impacts on our children.

    If I had kicked my husband out (his work pays our rent), that wouldn’t work – I wouldn’t be able to live here and we don’t have either of our families around. Where would I go with the kids? Do I just pull them out of their school and go to where my family is? He got his place set up, we treated each other with politeness and friendship (even though it was painful it was for me to go through a breakup), and when we talked to our children (who had no idea anything was wrong) they surprised us by being excited about visiting their father in an apartment. If we had scared them by making sudden changes, or given them any reason to doubt their confidence in having time and love from both their parents (which they will have), we wouldn’t have done our jobs right as parents. We are both proud of this.

    There is no ‘ideal’ way to break up, but there are things you can put as a priority, such as your children.

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    • Snap!!

      Good for you Bird. You sound like you made the best out of an extremely difficult situation. Ignore the ignorant haters. Best of luck to you. xx

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    • Anonymous

      There are some seriously nasty commentors that visit here. I know it’s really hard but don’t let them mess with your head.
      I’m sorry people were so mean to you.
      Best wishes for your future. :)

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  12. Kathy W

    Yippee! My Facebook account is permanently deleted!

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  13. Bryter Later

    OMM: my three-month-old baby daughter just had her first proper out-loud laugh. A real giggle. What an amazing moment. I feel so lucky to have her in my life.

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  14. bumpy

    I’m new to MM, brought here by tweets of a controversial nature and I love to check it out for myself rather than bleat like a lamb.
    I love that everyone has a say but no one should attack another. Regardless or race, religion or monetary placement in society.
    I think I’m rather chatty today so on that note I’d better crawl back into my busy cave. :-)

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    • Mia

      Welcome Bumpy! Lovely to have you here. Xx

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  15. Danielle

    Has Rick left Mamamia? Maybe I missed that news?

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    • Olympia

      Yes. Read all the comments below about him – he is much missed by many readers. He was the best writer they had.

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  16. milliemya

    OMM … I’ve only been visiting this site since the horrible mess with Yumi Stynes, and I loved Mia’s perspective. I’ve checked in everyday since and there’s always something that I take a peek at and comment occasionally.

    I’m so glad I found this place! How did it take me so long to find it?

    Also OMM … why can’t a well-qualified 50 something social worker get a job? And why did I decide to pick up some more psych subjects while between jobs? I went to do an exam today for the first time in years, and I was a day early. hmmm …

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    • Mia

      At least you weren’t a day late!
      :)

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      • milliemya

        :D That was my positive spin too Mia and others – when I came home and looked at the champers on ice, I burst out laughing! (I drank it anyway!!)

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  17. FuFu

    OMM This baby is never coming out. I feel huge and exhausted and in desperate need of either Edward Cullen or caramel slice.

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  18. Jenna

    Can we have the “confessions” post again? I remember reading some cracker confessions/secrets and bam! Now I’ve got a doozy to share….

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    • Lucy Ormonde

      Great idea! We loved that… I’ll put it on the list

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      • Tripitaka

        Could you put another “The Find” post on the list too? Where people talk about new things they’ve discovered. Haven’t seen one in ages, and they were super cool.

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        • Mia

          We were just the other day talking about bringing this back! Mind reader.

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        • Adrienne17

          And Random acts of kindness, love them!!

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        • Alice

          And “what I’m grateful for” too! So uplifting reading and posting in those.

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      • Lealea

        Yes yes yes! Confessions was a doozy!

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  19. cher

    How do people cope with lazy workers? I share an office with a woman who’s been there for 15 years and seems convinced that the rules handed down by management don’t actually apply to her. She works far less hours than she’s supposed to and is forever running off for massages etc. Management don’t seem to notice or care.

    And while her slackness doesn’t actually affect my work, it drives me BATS – I do all the right things and my reward is exhaustion, while she does all the wrong things and reaps the benefits!! I’m too old to dob, so what is the solution???

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    • elle

      Since it doesn’t affect you I wouldn’t worry about it. It is her problem not yours! I know its frustrating but there is not much you can do about it. Just focus on you :)

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      • cher

        That’s been my strategy for the last few years, but I’m getting crankier and crankier. However, I suspect there’s really nothing I can do but hope it comes back and bites her!!

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    • marijana

      I think Karma will strike her sooner or later. Good things come to those who wait(and work for it), and for the lazy ones comes Karma.

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  20. Xanthe

    OMM – and how! Today I went on an invited visit to the big Sikh temple here, was shown around and had symbolism and customs explained to me. It all just knocked my socks off at how open and … well, OPEN, these guys are. The temple is never closed or locked, and they have only had one “break in” since the temple waS built.
    My guide, I don’t know what else to call him, is a third-generation Aussie but still maintains all Sikh customs, even to wearing the sword which ALL Sikh men have on them at all times (and yes, it does cause problems at airports so as they’re a peaceful people, they pack their swords in their suitcases for the journey.)
    Sikhism is an extremely spiritual way of life.
    There is a huge Sikh community up here where I live, and they are all very highly respected in the community…there is never any hint of any sort of wrongdoing at all.
    My head’s still buzzing with it all … and it’s so OMM.

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  21. Tess12

    OMM: I am thinking about high tea with the prime minister and why i wasnt invited? I would have been great because i am the office baker. mia – can you get me an invite next time please?

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  22. isla11

    OMM: Why don’t I like Mamamia as much as I used to? I can’t exactly pinpoint why I’m not that into it anymore, I think I used to like the more newsy/current affairs posts and also the light hearted ones like ‘what are you having for dinner’ – I don’t really care if Portia cuts her hair or need to hear about the ‘gift of sleep’ ebook for the twentieth time in a week. And what happened to the fashion posts? I’ll still visit this site occasionally but feel a bit sad that it’s lost so much of its appeal to me :(

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    • Alice

      I agree. There’s less interesting debate too. Every second article seems to be “some d grade celebrity did something not interesting. Discuss”. I loved it when there were articles (even very brief ones) that ignited interesting debates about important social issues. Now the only time debates are had they’re about lara bingle, homebirth or breastfeeding. Borrrriiiiinnnnggg. Oh, or gay marriage.

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      • Alice

        And then to prove that I am very deep and interesting, I will make the very insightful observation that Jamila is stunning!

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    • Emily

      Agreed on all counts! Especially news and (good) fashion.

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    • Mia

      Hi Isla,
      Thanks for the feedback. We’ve had an intense few weeks for a whole bunch of reasons. I’m not sure if our content has changed. I don’t think it has and traffic has grown but rest assured, we have plans to bring back more fashion content.
      We take a lot of time each day to try and ensure a strong and diverse mix of content – hard and soft, light and shade.
      Each day we are very accountable! We look at the previous days numbers every morning and from that, make some judgements about what our readers do and don’t respond to.
      We don’t always get it right but it’s an on-going work in progress! Like making a soup. From scratch. Every day.

      We’re constantly tasting and adding new ingredients, mixing it up and refining the recipe as the tastes of our readers evolve along with us.

      In particular at the moment we’re also looking at how to tackle what used to be our daily news posts.
      While some people absolutely loved them, they were a minority and for the work and time they took, it just didn’t make sense to continue them.
      We are a super small team and there’s only so much content we can produce in a day. If the traffic on a regular post is low – and shrinking – then that says to us there is not an audience for it.

      We’ve been talking a lot about how we handle news lately.

      It’s something that’s always been part of the mix and we’re committed to continue to mix hard with soft but we’re not resourced to compete with massive news sites.

      I’m going to open the floor to you guys for your suggestions about what you’d like to see in the way of news or whether it’s something that you don’t want from Mamamia.
      Speak up! What do YOU GUYS want to see? How important is news?

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      • Suze

        The morning daily new headlines that Rick would do were awesome! As were his ‘cheat sheets’ when there was a particular hot issue that was a little more complex.
        I loved getting up, and being able to browse the headlines, go further into it via the links he provided if I had time, and launch the day at least somewhat up to date!

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        • eternally

          I agree, liked the news bites and cheat sheets.

          I personally have no interest in fashion, and little interest in trashy celeb stories (Lindsay collapses, Portia’s hair), although I don’t mind celeb stories that have a bit more meaning (eg Nicole and Keith’s babies).

          I have liked the vaccination, homebirthers, breast-feeding and gay-marriage posts early on, but am bored of them now, as a long term reader.

          The thing I particularly dislike are the ‘here’s something crazy or shocking this American person/group did’ that has little relevance here other than a point and laugh or anger up the blood angle.

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          • oopsyboops

            I absolutely agree with Eternally, although I realise my life isn’t any worse for not having the news around. I did like having some of the more interesting news topics to discuss eg. that girl who sued her school, that made for interesting comments.

            The celeb news, meh.

            And I agree with all the breastfeeding topics etc etc. I love them, but, after being around for a while, they are becoming repetitive. Particulary when one person jumps on the negative bandwagon. Not sure how you stop that though. I get frustrated at it so I can’t imagine how you guys must feel!!

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      • Amandarose

        Is traffic measured by clicks or comments? I would read the news but not comment

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        • Mia

          Good question!
          We have three ways of measuring the success of a post.
          1. Traffic
          2. Comments
          3. Social media shares.
          When we did a daily news post – and drier news stories – the results were poor by all three measures. So that’s all we have to go by.
          Not that we’re giving up on news AT ALL but we’re currently trying to understand what MM can bring to the news that’s unique to us. And what you, our readers, want.

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          • Amandarose

            What about the just doing stories when something is really in the headlines and it is very interesting and you have a different take on it?

            I like your stories like that ( the election etc) as they give a different perspective on the current issue and make it conversational so the comments are interesting?

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          • becauseimthemum

            What about, instead of daily news, doing a cheat sheet like Rick used to, on one interesting subject, maybe once a week or once a fortnight?

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      • MellyBunny

        Hi Mia, thanks for responding to comments like these and listening to what people want :) I really liked the daily news snippets, it was good to read in the morning and know what’s going on without having to read big articles. I personally would like to see more posts about travel and career. I like that there’s a variety of different things though, fashion, weddings, babies, politics, relationships, friendship, celebrity stuff, even if a lot of articles don’t interest me or I don’t relate to them there’s always something I’ll have a look at each day. What I don’t like is that lately the galleries haven’t been working for me (which I know a lot of people have said and you’re trying to fix so it’s all good!) and a lot of the comments are feeling very negative lately (which you obviously can’t help!) so lighten up everyone! :) I appreciate as well that when people complain about content you tell them that they are welcome to submit posts, and this is definitely something I’m thinking of doing in future! Sorry for the essay, thank you! :)

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      • jessc

        Speaking for myself, I didn’t regularly read the daily news headlines, mainly because I read Mamamia primarily in the afternoon/evening. I often found the more obscure articles were a day or two late in being linked to – old news – unless it was a particularly pertinent topic.

        I love it when Mamamia tackles breaking news with a different perspective.. While I love celeb news I’m not so keen on constant posts on “Johnny Depp broke up with his wife”, etc. I get that you want to be immediate in covering something, but the posts often get lost in the mix of the home page and don’t seem to garner many comments. Perhaps celeb content could be condensed into three or so posts a week with more to look at/talk about?

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      • florally

        Mia I love that you take the time to reply thoughtfully to criticism. I love my MM and do relate to the comments that the content has become fluffier of late.
        Whist you say the traffic to the news was modest I have a theory on this….Have you ever bought an ice-cream at a farmers market?? Full fat and plenty of sugar- the calories consumed are probably them same as one bought anywhere, but it is the fact that it was bought alongside a vendor selling organic carrots and herbal tea sort of softens the blow and makes it somehow feel slightly more virtuous than it actually is.
        Truth be known I probably am interested in Portia’s hair, but I want it served alongside proper news. Yes I am interested in women’s issues, but I also want to be part of sight that would hold men’s interest too. I want the comments that appear to reflect a positive balanced multi cultural community, not a whingeing wealthy middle class. I want the place I come to see celebrity to be the same place I would turn to for an unbiased cheat sheet on carbon tax. I don’t want Mummy wars, fashion one up man ship. Above all I want the presumption to be that I am an intelligent reader who wants to be kept in touch with what is going on in the world. I want to be inspired to think beyond my little domestic world.
        I thought your comment today that you were 4 people- actual people working hard to deliver a site was a good one. I also think that the recent debate about paid V’s paid online content is an interesting one. I look forward to your team conquering this transitional time, and have my fingers crossed that some juicy new news content is on the way x

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      • Bryter Later

        I think Mamamia’s strength is in personalising the news and opening up intelligent debate and discussion. Instead of straight reporting of the news (which you can read on countless other sites), I’d rather read a well-crafted column inspired by current events, commentary on a social trend, first-person stories related to the news, etc.

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        • Anonymous

          There has been a distinct lack of intellect in the discussions recently.

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      • Tripitaka

        Maybe it would be good to have just one news story a day which is up for discussion, instead of having 5 or 6 stories in the one article. The main reason I say this is becaue it makes the comments flow more nicely if there is just one topic, and usually the comments are the most interesting part, for me. I used to find it a bit hard to read the comments in the old-style news as they jumped around from topic to topic a fair bit. It wouldn’t have to be very in-depth, just a brief story obout something topical, with some questions posed. Sort of like the way the celebrity news is done now, I guess.

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      • elle

        Did Rick choose to leave of his own accord? Or was it because there was no longer a position for him (as news editor) due to the news posts not being popular as you mentioned above? As I noticed you did not replace his position with anyone new.

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        • Haven Maven

          Oooh is that even anyone’s business but Rick’s?

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      • georgiepie

        the news I can take or leave, the age is my homepage so I get it all from that. But I LOVE the cheat sheets when something particularly big is going on, they’re awesome! especially when lauren dubois writes them, she makes everything so easy to understand. please keep doing them! x

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      • passing through

        We look at the previous days numbers every morning and from that, make some judgements about what our readers do and don’t respond to.

        That’s one of the problems with this forum, you’re too focused on the number of hits. So you keep posting articles that turn women against women like your “birthzilla” post, simply because the comment numbers go through the roof, and that’s good for you and your bottom figure.

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        • Mia

          Trust me, when I post something like Birthzillas, it has nothing to do with my ‘bottom figure’. There are far easier ways to generate traffic if that was my only aim. Like a post called Lara Bingle Nude.
          And that wouldn’t generate hundreds of hatefully abusive comments hurled at me! Bonus!

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      • Isla11

        Thanks for the reply Mia. I understand that your a small team, that you can’t please everyone and that your doing your best.

        Since you asked, I REALLY don’t want to read anymore posts on vaccinations, home births or breastfeeding – simply because the arguments are always SO one sided and negative.

        I am interested in reading about all three things, but not when it just comes in the form of ‘your an absolute idiot if you don’t vaccinate, why would you risk your child’s life by not giving birth in a hospital etc’. It’s boring, one sided and the comments always exactly the same.

        I also don’t care THAT much about what the whole office is wearing, actually I’d be more interested to see pictures of what you all eat for lunch! Can we have more food posts? I used to love the international fashion posts that were on here, not so much the most recent purchases at mamamia HQ.

        I’d like more international news about things that happen in other parts of the world that we don’t always hear about, more fashion posts (besides what the staff wear to work), more funny/everyday posts (like the confessions one!) that spark good conversations between people and more lighthearted and funny posts from Mia! I miss Mia’s best and worsts and even her open posts so much. Also loved the cheat sheets and the morning news posts.

        It feels like there are too many posts each day that are mediocre, it was so much better when there was less posts of higher quality.

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      • little jojo

        Hi Mia,

        For me, I loved the early morning news bites, really miss them! Also, love the cheat sheets – I don’t have the greatest knowledge about a lot of political/financial/serious stuff and the cheat sheets were always really helpful. Also love pics of the week, open posts and best & worsts. Enjoy the light hearted posts too like ‘what are you having for dinner’, ‘FWPs’, ‘thefind’ etc.

        I don’t really like the celeb news, particularly all the little posts. Maybe, like someone else said, condense it all into two weekly posts instead?

        I would love to see more health, fitness, food type posts. Also, a post on ‘how’ to dress well would be really helpful, I’ve got no idea about fashion! xxx

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      • Caro

        Off topic a little but I would love a mm book “club”.
        Cheers

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    • Xanthe

      I agree with you Isla11, too many mums’n'bubs, boring celebs, fashion parades including that at MM office, and bloody cupcakes – can we have more news bites, please, and more light-hearted articles on things everyone can relate to, ie One thing you would take to a deserted island; the best gift you ever gave someone; or the most interesting place/attraction near where you live.
      Mia, I would read the phone book if you wrote it, but after reading your column in the Sunday paper, I don’t want to see it here on MM for the next week…
      Your FWP article yesterday was great – more of those, please?

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      • Gina (not that one)

        I don’t buy the paper so please keep putting your column here Mia!

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      • Amandarose

        I like that one – interesting attractions where you live. I would love to read that

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    • Indigo Girl

      Speak for yourself! I love the Portia hair pictures! And I’m happy to take my celeb stories alongside my ones about refugees or China’s one-child policy.
      At least I can get it all in one place here.

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      • Shan

        I agree. I like that I can come to MM and have a variety of stories to choose from. I like the opinion pieces and current affairs stories and the discussion that these stories bring (although the discussion seems to be more negative lately?) but the celeb stories can be a welcomed break from the serious stuff. I usually get my fix of news from a local news website first thing in the morning before visiting MM.

        What I did like was the stories on what was happening in the world of politics for the moment, I think it was Lauren who wrote them? Just made understanding what was going on so much easier and maybe even a little more interesting :)

        But my fave blogs are from Zoe Foster … I love reading what new magical beauty trick she has for us and The Voice recaps from Em were great. I never once watch the show but use to hang out for her review every week!

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    • Radka

      I feel the same… I couldn’t wait to get on line in the morning to see what MM prepared to read over my breakfast. Now I kind of struggle to find anything interesting. I definitely miss Rick and his articles. What happend to him anyway??? Also, the fashion posts from MM readers and street pics from over the world for some inspiration. On the other hand Celebrity News is everywhere you look so I don’t think you guys need to waste your interesting and smart resources on that type of thing.

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      • ParisChic

        i feel the same. I often open the site, look at the headlines and think nahhhh. I agree with others that the same topics rehashed are getting old – although there are a few lines of new copy, it’s often the exact same reused article pasted underneath.
        I’m replacing mm with mumbrella for media news, the guardian for news and smh for lifestyle trash (so many articles seem to be directly copy-pasted from there too but a day or so after).
        Any other recommendations?

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    • Anon

      I’m the same. I think this website is trying too be too much, too big, put up too many posts. I think it’s just recycling the same tired old themes and ideas because they invariably get the hits. It’s all a bit same-same and repetitive.

      I think quality is being sacrificed for assumptions about what readers will respond to. For example, a really silly, sexist, poorly thought out and badly written post was put up recently about single over-40 year old women. I’m guessing the decision was made because Mia thought it would get lots of comments, without regard to its actual quality or worth.

      Sure this site is hugely successful and making a motza, but at what cost? Where’s the pride and kudos if your success is based on hate readers or your appeal to the lowest common denominator?

      I would hate to see the site’s freshness and edge sacrificed at the alter of commercial success.

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  23. ash

    OMM: I have to move out of my house on Friday and I’m feeling really down about it. I really, really loved this house and it was in the nicest suburb in Perth IMO. I’m really sad! Trying to think of the new beginnings and how it will be nice to have some company again rather than being on my own … but to be honest with myself I know how much I’m going to miss my little house! Sob.

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  24. Becca

    Jamila, I am in love with your skirt! Would you mind sharing where you got it from? Thanks!

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    • jamilarizvi

      With pleasure Becca :-) It’s Zara, I bought it less than a month ago, so it should still be around! J xx

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  25. roserusso

    So… this week I’ve decided I’m leaving my job. In the next 3 months. And I’m getting into politics.

    What could possibly go wrong? HA! :P

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    • Petal

      Oh, Rose that sounds exciting! Tell us more please! Federal, State, Local??? I’d vote for you, except if you were ALP of course lol.

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      • roserusso

        No clue… I made up my mind 2 days ago! I’m looking for something like a communications or media advisor, so I can use my degree. I love politics and I love writing so I thought I’d combine the two.

        I’d love to work in State or Federal politics and am willing to move. I’m just going to throw myself in the deep end and find out where I come up…

        :)

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        • jamilarizvi

          It’s one of the best jobs going around roserusso – you’ll love it. All the very best of luck with the the job hunt!

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          • roserusso

            thanks Jamila! I’m just dipping my toe into the endless possibilities that I could do. It finally feels so good to know that my gut feeling is right about where I’m heading.

            If you, or any MM readers have any advice about getting into politics – media or otherwise – I would love to hear from you.

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  26. MissV

    OMM: I think i’m getting eczema. I have a doc appointment next week so will get it checked out but i’m really itchy.

    Also OMM, it bothers me that so many unoriginal, shit movies get made and then the hilariously funny Cabin in the Woods, despite getting massive opening in the USA was only open on limited release in Australia (Melb/Sydney only) for one week and only because people petitioned about it going straight to dvd. Why are we still making sequel after sequel after sequel?

    No wonder I haven’t been to the movies in years!

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  27. franka

    I just try to imagine how I would feel,waking up every morning and see that most Australians hate me.[Julia G]

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  28. neens78

    OMM: thinking about going back to uni (after 15 years) and becoming a primary teacher…! very excited but i’ve got two kids under 3.5 and i’m worried about balancing time with them and studying again – anyone done this and survived?!

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    • Kez

      Hi, I went back to uni to change careers a couple of years ago ..kids were also both under 3.5.. It was fine although I did it by distance which meant I could fit study and assignments around kids..the best bit was getting a new career at the end of it which was much more me! (was a primary teacher and am now a social worker) go for it!!

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      • neens78

        thanks so much kez! i can’t wait to try something new x

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  29. carlie

    OMM: My future.

    I’m a first year high school teacher in NSW. I’m currently teaching in a small country town, but the job is only for a year; so I know I have to start looking for work for next year pretty much now.

    People may know there’s a lot going on with teacher’s in NSW at the moment, we’re hearing about job cuts and such, which is scary- especially for a new teacher like myself.

    2 months ago, I was in Singapore on holidays with a really good friend of mine who lives in Adelaide. We were talking and joked a bit (as you do) that I should move to SA and we’d move out together.

    Since I’ve come home, I’ve been thinking about it a bit. And now I’ve come to the stage where I really have to decide if I really want to do this.

    It’s a bit scary, because honestly, I’m not really coping being 4 hours away from my family, home and friends, let alone in a different state. But I think if I did do this it would be different because it would be so less isolating then where I am now, and I have friends there already.

    Just so much to think about, and I have no clue!

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    • Kathy W

      Hey Carlie
      If you move to SA bear in mind your NSW teaching qualifications won’t be valid there.
      And don’t believe the beat up about job cuts – that’s the Teacher’s Federation trying to scare everyone, as usual.
      Good luck!

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      • Mosquitonet

        Good point Kathy W. A friend of mine in NSW who was a successful deputy principal moved to SA and had to start again at the bottom of the public school system list. Crazy – and he was a much sought after male primary school teacher too.

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        • carlie

          Yep, I’ve spoken to the SA Teacher Registration Board, and downloaded the form they say I need to fill in. I’d need to get it witnessed by a JP and copy my ID, but otherwise its good to send in.
          I’d also have to do a 7 hour training course, for Abuse and Neglect Notification and such, which has to be done in Adelaide.
          There’s one that will fall in the September school holidays, so I could do that one if I really wanted to. I just have to decide if I think I can do this!

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          • Jemma

            In regards to your teaching qualification, when people say they had to start again they mean according to the pay structure. But as you’re a first year it won’t make much difference – you’ll just stay on step 1 (or whatever the equivalent is) instead of moving to step 2. Do the mandatory notification through the AEU here, coz if you join up its free. Also think carefully about where you would live in Adelaide, the most teaching jobs are either in the northern suburbs (Elizabeth, salisbury, Smithfield, Munno para) or down south (Brighton, seaford etc). Dont be put off my people saying those areas are bad, i teach in the northern suburbs and i love it. Also look on teachinginsa.sa.edu.au because that’s where the jobs go up, both permanent and contract. Hope this helps :)

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            • carlie

              This does help! Thank you!

              At this stage, because I have a bit of time before I absolutely have to decide, I’m going to do what all 22 yr olds do- talk to my mum about it, LOL.

              But this helps a lot, thank you.

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  30. Petal

    Can you hurry up and fix the gallery problems?? So frustrating!!

    I need to get something off my chest. I love this site. But I really feel as though I’m reading Woman’s Day Online. It used to be better than this. A bit more political. I went over to ThePunch.com yesterday and quite liked it and got the feeling that this is how MM used to be. A little bit serious, a little bit funny, a bit of gossip. Now it seems it’s very gossipy, hardly political and very mummy orientated. Just look at the home page today – abortion, baby and Lara Bingle. I know what you’re going to say – skip the articles that of are no interest to me – indeed I myself have offered up that advice to whingeing commenters – but I feel like I’m skipping more and more these days. Mia – was this a conscious change or more an evolution?

    The Richard Wilkins party sounds like a blast.

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    • MissV

      I’m a little the same Petal. I’ve barely come on here in the last month because the only posts I now find interesting are Open Post and Best and Worst. The daily news/whatever it is now isn’t all that interesting and I’m over the snarkiness of some people for no real reason and the constant criticism of everything and anything.

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      • abc123

        I agree. I used to love the Open Post because it was interesting little things that had happened during the week. Conversation starters. Now I just feel its a way for all the people who work at mamamia to show off their cool clothes and outfits. Sorry but pretty boring after a while.
        Also I just dont think things like Portia cutting her hair deserve their own post or Johnny Depp spltiting up. Maybe a once a week celebrity news post is a better place for that sort of stuff.

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        • Alibee

          Yeah – there used to be a post that someone’s Dad used to write about celebrities? 10 things I’ve learnt – or something like that once a week which is an awesome way to do it, and much better than giving Portia De Rossi’s new haircut it’s own post.

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          • Petal

            Yes, I remember those posts – bring those back!!!!

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      • the snarkiness ~ wow

        same, now I basically just read open post & best and worst.
        (I miss rick)

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    • Sweets

      I agree with a lot of what you are saying.

      I find a lot of the stories seem invite conflict ie pitting mothers against mothers, non mothers against mothers, etc and I am consequently finding mamamia a stressful place to hang out!

      My favourite posts are open post and best and worst, where you get a glimpse into people’s lives and there is still a supportive community feel.

      I also miss Ricks news post in the mornings.

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      • Sweets

        I meant *to* invite conflict

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    • merindakennedy

      I couldn’t agree more Petal… and it’s a real shame. It was also a sad sad day that Rich left. I thought his articles were the best by far.

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    • Kerr

      i’ve noticed the change too…

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    • Mimi

      i feel the same Petal – im not a parent so i feel most the parenthood articles arent interesting and even the celebrity bits are that better – i usually go to people for my celebrity gossip….some the posts are all very similar too!

      I miss the news bites and the fashion gallery of the readers etc…..and def miss rick! i only like Open Post and Best/Worst Week and i am looking forward to the food posts by the Im not quite Nigella writer tho…

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    • Anonymous

      YEP! I want more articles that are relevant to my demographic (early twenties, single, educated, no kids). To be blunt..I don’t give a s**t about your shoes/scarves/see through skirts. It annoys me that you write a post about FWP etc but then have constant galleries of clothing/accessories that is relatively expensive but made in sweatshops in the third world you clearly care so much about.

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  31. Lizi

    OMM: the job interview I endured last night, and the promise of more to come. *so over job hunting*

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    • zepgirl

      Going through exactly the same thing at the moment, My deepest sympathies!

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  32. Anonymous

    Is there any other news apart from Johnny Depp? (Be truthful, now ..)

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  33. Belle

    OMM… an article about working couples where the women are still lumped with most of the housework. Do you have a lazy husband or partner?
    If so I would love to hear from you… bella781@ymail.com

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    • Bunny

      Oh my gosh, this is so how I am feeling these last couple of days… but then I’m wondering if I’ve really got nothing to complain about, because he works longer hours than me, organises our finances and pays the bills, and sorts me out whenever I have an IT issue or something goes wrong with the TV/laptop/insert other appliance here.

      I’m just sick of getting home from work, rushing around and tidying up the kitchen from that morning/the night before, cooking tea, waiting for him to get off the phone as he walks in the door, washing up my stuff after dinner (he usually takes longer to finish so I do mine while boiling the kettle, getting dessert etc), and then waking up the next morning to see that the kitchen still looks like a bomb went off, because he was too tired to finish tidying up.

      Okay, now that I’ve read that back, I need to have another talk with him (the last time I mentioned it was two nights ago and I feel like a broken record).

      Belle, what’s your article for?

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      • Xanthe

        Did you sign any sort of contract with this guy re division of duties etc? No, of course not. So why are you doing all this stuff? You work just as hard as he does as you would seem to do all the domestic things while he just faffs around with IT which is probably a breeze for him. And then he gets served and watied on, blah blah.
        Makes me cross.
        So, why don’t you just not do it?
        I know it’s a difficult question to answer simply, all circs are not the same, but hey, don’t you have what’s called a “partnership?” Look up the word in the dix.
        Often “The Talk” doesn’t help – they alwaYs agree with you and promise the world … and just continue their own merry way. Until the next Talk.
        I’m not criticising you, I’m full of sympathy/empathy as I’ve so been there – best of luck.

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        • gemack

          Haha I tried that once, “I am sick of cleaning up your stuff! I won’t do it anymore”

          Unfortunately… it’s my house too and couldn’t stand the sight of it. Sigh :(

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    • D

      Lazy Partner = I have!!! :(

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  34. Pocket Rocket.

    For the first time in forever, I feel really happy. I have a great boyfriend, great friends and opportunity for a good career.

    The thing that is really on my mind is how much I made a decision for myself to discontinue all 4 of my subjects this semester and how making the choice has made me feel stronger in doing things for myself and not doing things for anyone else.

    Second thing that is on my mind is how great it is to have Jamila on Mamamia. She really is a role model for me having worked in politics, combining her law degree and her interest in the media. It is exactly what l want to do. Really gives me hope for the future. Well done Mamamia!!!!!

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  35. Tina

    Wow. What a stunner Jamila is. Absolutely gorgeous girl.

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  36. Amy

    Is anyone else having issues viewing the photographs/ images? Happened last week too? MM team is there a new photo viewer or am I just being daft?!

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    • Barb Fisher

      Me too Amy. I can’t scroll through the images. Has been that way for a few days now.

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    • jamilarizvi

      Hi Amy. We’ve been having a few gallery issues of late and are working hard to get them sorted out for you. Thanks for your patience! Jamila x

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  37. zepgirl

    First time commenter, long time reader here!

    OMM: having a really hard time finding a permanent job. I’ve gone back into the corporate world after having worked as a midwife and nanny for the past five years, and the decade of corporate experience that I have (working as a PA and in admin) doesn’t seem to count anymore, so I’m having to work the most extraordinarily mindless jobs that, it goes without saying, pay next to nothing in order to prove myself to agencies. I’m grateful that I have temp jobs to go to, but the times in between when I don’t have work can be hard to get through financially.

    Also, my younger sister is having her first baby at home in the next few weeks and I’m so excited! I’ve been asked to be there, as support, not as one of her midwives, and I can’t wait to meet my very first niece.

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    • hms

      Lucky you to see a baby being born! I’m the only childless one in my group and I’ve yet to be present at a birth. Think I might just ask outright at the next pregnancy announcement :)

      Fingers crossed you find a job that makes you happy very soon.

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      • zepgirl

        Hi hms,

        being a midwife I’ve obviously seen lots and lots and lots of babies being born, but expect that it’s going to be a whole different kettle of fish when it’s my own sister giving birth!

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        • hms

          Why did my brain not compute that part of your post lol. I imagine it will be different this time :)

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  38. gypsy

    OMM – Wednesday night = Offspring night – YIPPEEE!!!

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    • Barb Fisher

      I genuinely think Offspring is one of the best shows ever made. It never fails to make me laugh out loud every week. So proud we make such great shows in Australia!

      Wednesday nights rock!

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    • Em

      Haha it’s sometimes the highlight of my week lol

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    • merindakennedy

      And Nina & Patrick are getting it back on tonight. YAYYY!!

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      • Mimi

        yes! glass of vino and Offspring best midweek event in my calender!!! :)

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      • M

        Noo I don’t like him anymore. After his whole ‘It’s all too hard lets break up’ thing. Stupid Patrick. Nina deserves better!

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        • merindakennedy

          After last night, i’m feeling the same. After all the stuffing her around and being too much of a coward to actually articulate & break it off with her… he then gets angry at her for moving on with someone else (who’s much nicer & more sane) and getting over him. Grrrr. He’s just so hot though ;)

          I’m interested to see what happens next week. The consensus all over the blogs & FB last night is that they’re going to make Nina get pregnant from last nights tryst…. we’ll see!!!

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          • Lynnie

            MM team,
            U would do weekly posts on The Voice given its popularity. I think there is chop in doing the same for Offspring. Only 3 eps to go, but definitely something to think about for next season. I have a feeling alot of MM regulars are a fans of Offspring too and would love to share thoughts, predictions and their Patrick crushes on here.

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            • Mia

              Look out for a couple of offspring posts coming up!

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  39. Cinnamon

    OMM – Packing and moving yet again… we (as in husband and I) are moving into a new place this weekend which means we need start getting our stuff packed! So tomorrow I’m going to have to go and find/buy boxes and start organising.

    Which makes me have major de ja vu of having to pack up everything back home when we moved over here. Of course that was a MUCH MUCH bigger move and was a MAJOR pain so thinking of that puts this move into perspective but I just don’t know where to start!

    I am excited about the move though, is it weird that I haven’t actually seen the place? I was telling a friend this and she was so shocked! I explained to her that we had actually seen a unit in the same apartment complex a few months ago that was REALLY nice and wanted to rent that out but it was given to someone else so when this one came up husband went to see it (I was working) and he being even fussier than me said it was MUCH nicer than the other one so I was on board with it even though I haven’t seen it. If he says it is nice then I know it is nice!

    Anyway we have recruited some of his friends here to help us with the move so hopefully it won’t be too much of a pain!

    Also OMM the other day husband said two things that got me thinking the first one was that we have actually been living here in the apartment we are in now for the same amount of time (actually longer) than our place back home which feels weird to think about and say. The other thing he said and actually he has been saying stuff like this more and more lately which at first I was like woahhhh really since he never used to say stuff like that before, things like ‘when we have kids’ or ‘I want our kids to’ and one day I said to him you know you keep talking about kids but you do realise I’m not getting any younger so we do need to get cracking in the next year or two MAX and he said ‘yes I agree’. Which again was a shock to me but a good shock because in the past when I have said this he has said things like ‘oh we have time’. So I think he is finally clicking that we DON’T have all the time in the world.

    Anyway I’m definitely not looking forward to packing!

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    • Rach

      I still think we live in parallel universes…

      And I wish WE were moving this weekend…now that I’m working on campus every day it sucks to be so far away!

      I got some boxes from a friend who got them from Gordon’s Food Services…which is kind of like FAL for food, so if they have one of them or similar, you might be able to get some for free there?

      And if you are feeling anything like me at the moment (i.e. baby-fied) do NOT click on the link for the graphic shot in the story about the Chinese woman. I knew what it would be and still clicked. Damn me and my curiosity…crying now.

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      • Cinnamon

        Looool Rach seriously! I think there is a GFS some where but it’s not that close so not sure I’m willing to drive there but I might check with some of the other supermarkets/shops around us. I don’t want to have to pay for boxes! Oh thanks for the warning I saw the pic but haven’t read the post yet…. but now I’m curious too :|

        I wish I had more time to move but looks like it’s going to have to happen now! At least you will have time to do things slowly :)

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  40. stacey87

    On My Mind today: People who have so much and hardly show any appreciation, and young adults who refuse to learn life skills because their parents do everything for them..

    Disgust in myself for being jealous of other people who have such perfect little families/parents and get amazing birthday gifts who never struggle with anything like study, money, work, relationships etc etc.. deep down I know that everyone has their own issues and I have so much more than I can even express, but still… this is me being selfish and immature. Apologies for today’s negativity everyone!

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    • zepgirl

      Ha ha ha! I so know what you’re talking about. I’m working at a university and we constantly receive phone calls from parents who have called on behalf of their child to pay their student fees (about $100). The child is generally in the room and has received explicit instructions about how to pay for it online or on campus, but is somehow unable to do so themselves (and they’ve been given six months to do so). I always tell the parent to put the kid on the phone and I tell them how to do it and remind that, being over 18, it’s their responsibility to pay their own fees. The parent is usually appreciative, the kid not so much…

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      • Shannon

        I had a bit of a pang of jealousy at work the other week. There is an absolutely *lovely* girl who is around my age (I think perhaps a year or two younger, but she might just look deceptively young) who was hired to work with me and in an effort to make small talk I asked how she was settling in, if this was going to be a long-term thing for her etc. and her response was that she didn’t really know, because her father pays for everything (rent, food etc.) while she is at uni so she is really only doing this job to get a bit of play money.

        Meanwhile, I work 30 hours a week while doing uni full time to pay my rent, put food on the table, petrol in the car, etc. and am exhausted *all* the time. But I like to think that independence and a bit more “real life” experience is invaluable.

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        • merindakennedy

          Think about how amazing it is that your self sufficent and don’t continually owe your parents for money etc!! I’m 25 and completely cupport myself and am financially independant… but it’s staggering how many people my age still sponge off their parents simply because they can.

          You should be super pround you’re able to do it all by yourself. :)

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          • merindakennedy

            Cupport is meant to be support. Eh… it;s been a long day ;)

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          • Shannon

            “Because they can” I think that’s the key issue! Many of my friends *could* be self-sufficient, but have no intention of paying their own way until their parents cut them off and force them to.

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        • Gemack

          To be totally fair I am in a somewhat similar position… I am at uni doing law, Tafe doing community service work and also volunteer with 3 different organisations heavily. I do work but I can really only cope with 10 – 15 hours a week doing law (I did 30 when I was doing journalism, but it was tough too!) and its on quite a casual basis because I often find myself taking time off for study, work experience etc. Plus I am from the country so I have to live out of home, and 10 hours a week at a $20 p/h job doesn’t even cover my rent!

          So my parents help me out a lot… I really appreciate what they do but I don’t think it’s made me dependent, I work really hard! Plus some parents may be spending $10 – 20 grand a year on private school fees, whereas I went to my local public school so my parents think it is justified to help me out since they can.

          That said… you should be proud! you are obviously a very hardworking and committed person, and the things you work for always give you more satisfaction I think :) But you should be proud irrespective of how others are getting by, since you may not know their full situation :)

          I’m 20 btw

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          • Shannon

            I’m doing law too, and if I were also doing TAFE and volunteering there is no way in Hell I’d be able to do my 30 hour weeks! I think you are fully justified in getting a bit of parental support :)

            I certainly don’t want to give the impression that I think there is something wrong with parental support or that I judge my colleague for it – just expressing that I felt that bit of jealousy that she seems so happy and carefree and could take or leave the shifts she was getting because they’re just pocket money to her. :)

            Good luck with everything, sounds like you certainly have a full plate!

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            • Gemack

              You must be superwoman to work 30 hrs and do law! At least with volunteering I can ask for a few weeks off when my head feels like it’s going to explode from all the assignments :)

              I am sure learning to be so self-sufficient and hardworking will aid you greatly in whatever you choose to do in the future! Best of luck with your studies too.

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      • elle

        How is it your place to tell the “kid” it is their responsibility to pay fees? If their parents want to pay then what business is it of yours?! Urgh I cannot stand people like this!

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        • zepgirl

          I take your point, Elle. The parents are allowed to ‘fund’ their child if they choose, my issue is that only the son/daughter can go ahead and pay the fee themself as the information required is confidential and the son/daughter would need to have filled out an actual proxy form to allow their parents to act on their behalf. And like I said, the son/daughter is nine times out of ten in the actual room when the parent calls up to pay and the parent keeps having to cover the phone and ask them what the course is, how much it is, what the student number is. Why can’t the son/daughter just call up themself? The actual fee that is to be paid is now six months late.

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    • oopsyboops

      This was my OMM last week! tee hee. I’m jealous of things people have when they don’t seem to appreicate them or work that hard to get them. I dont’ have an ipad, or a smartphone even, or go out for dinner, or buy anything that doesn’t come from target. Oh well. And then I think, well good on them. Life is swings and roundabouts. What might be easy for someone now may not be in the future. Take strenght in knowing you are a strong, independent person now!

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  41. Sam

    I have a few things OMM.

    For one, I am getting a little bit cranky with all the mamamia-bashing that is going on, in every single post. Yes, the picture thing is annoying, but they know about it and are trying to fix it. Yes, a lot of the posts are about motherhood, women’s issues etc. If you don’t want to read something, then don’t. Just stop ruining everyone else’s mood by bitching about it. I only started logging on to this site about six months ago but I take it for what it is. Sure, it may be politically biased. Sure, they may promote some issues more than others, sometimes repeatedly. Sure, some stuff may not be considered “newsworthy”. But I take the site for what it is, and what it claims to be – “what everyone’s talking about”. Not hard-hitting news. Not fence-sitting. Just a mish-mash of opinion pieces that lighten my days and allow me to read about important and not-so-important matters and have a look at the comments on them to help me decide my own opinions.

    Rant Over.

    Also on my mind is the most bizarre brazilian wax experience I have ever had. My stalker ex gave me a voucher for a beauty place a few months ago. I finally rang them and booked in for a brazilian the other day and went along. The first thing she said to me was “you know we use strip wax don’t you?”. “What is the difference?” I asked. Apparently strip wax is more thorough but the other stuff is better for sensitive areas. Um, okay, if my lady bits aren’t my most sensitive area, then I don’t know what is…

    So she proceeds to tell me to bend BOTH legs out to the side. I have had a bajillion brazilians before and always, always, one leg up at a time. But no, she was going to do it pap-smear style. Eesh. It was all over in 5 minutes. I shit you not. Most painful wax ever. And to top things off, when she tried to put the voucher through it turned out that it had been refunded. Eejit ex had got a refund! (Perhaps he knew I would be getting brazilian for benefit of new boy..teehee).

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    • jorjagoodey

      Amen, sister!

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    • stacey87

      hahaha, I love the first AND the second part of this comment, ALOT!! :)

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    • Rach

      Thank you Sam. Exactly what I have been thinking!

      And thank you for that little giggle at the imagery…albeit at your expense, but…wow!

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    • Lucy Ormonde

      Awesome comment! Thanks for the support Sam X

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    • gypsy

      Bloody well said and can I add enough with the “site spelling/typo police” who feel the need to correct everything.

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    • Cinnamon

      Sam I totally agree with the first part of your post! I have been shocked to read some of the comments coming through on some of the posts on here!

      “But I take the site for what it is, and what it claims to be – “what everyone’s talking about”. Not hard-hitting news. Not fence-sitting. Just a mish-mash of opinion pieces that lighten my days and allow me to read about important and not-so-important matters and have a look at the comments on them to help me decide my own opinions.” – THIS yes exactly! I just can’t comprehend the way some people’s comments get bashed just for having an opinion on something, I actually have heard of a lot of people who have stopped commenting on here just because they are not interested in having their thoughts shut down!

      As for the brazilian… OUCH! I had a girl I went to back home who I loved, she was great and took me ages to find her so was sad that I was moving O/S and would have to find someone to replace her. Well turns out not many people here (where I am) do brazilians! So I went to one, she was crap and now have found one that seems pretty good so will stick it out with her for now hehe. As for your ex…bastard lol!

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      • gypsy

        You know I think you nailed it by simply saying that you take the site for what it claims to be. Well said.

        As for your brazilian moment. I can empathise with my own experience. A few years ago I had a “bikini wax” booked for a 3pm timeslot. I was a bit early and the therapist thought I was her 2.30pm appointment who was booked for a “brazilian”. (You can see where this is going!). About 5 minutes in I was thinking “hmm… this doesn’t seem right”. Despite being an independent, free thinking, confident female I was mortified and far too embarrassed to say something.

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    • Alice

      Awesome comment from start to finish! Now I feel terrible for criticising MM above and am heartily sorry!

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      • Sweets

        I think there is nothing wrong with a bit of constructive criticism

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    • KittyKat

      Sam, I’ve never commented on here before but felt compelled to ask you if you got your wax done in Morley, WA?

      I had a similar experience at a place there and went back 4-5 times but have since tracked down my old therapist who changed salons and am much happier now!

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      • Sam

        No, it was in Brisbane…

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    • MissT

      Oh my gosh, do not go back there again!! You’re not meant to use strip wax!

      I’m too scared to get another was since my last one removed more than just hair. Had to sit on the sofa with no pants and a bandage for the rest of that weekend.

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      • JJ Fights to keep that image out of his mind…fails…doesn’t know how he’ll ever be able to look T in the face again without wincing…

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  42. Shannon

    One more exam until HOLIDAYS. Well, I’ll be working full time but whatever. Sure, my group assignment results sucked but it’s hard to feel to crappy about it when it is exactly what you expected, so I’m moving the heck on, getting this last exam done and getting the friends over for a end of semester celebratory get together.

    Or at least, I *would* be getting this last exam done if I could only stop procrastinating! There’s only so much I can hear about Weinrib and Birks before I want to take the toaster for a bath!

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  43. Caro

    Hey MM Team- what’s happening with the photo galleries? They never seem to work for me any more. Is it something I said? To whom do I need to apologise to get my privelages back?

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    • Natalia

      Hey Caro, our tech team is working on it as we speak :) sorry for the inconvenience!

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  44. Haven Maven

    I’ve always loved Dickie, as Lisa Wilkinson calls him. He seems to be a much liked bloke who has had a long career on tv and knows his stuff. What a brilliant line up! Hope they raised big bucks.

    OMM this week. Not sure if there is something funny going on with the moon but I’ve had a weird week. Ended up having a complete man detox on the weekend as most of them just shit me. It only happened each time one of them opened their mouth… (or sent a text). Also detonated that bridge with the ex bf. Needed to be done. Should have done it weeks ago in fact. Done now. Moving forward. Cept I still had a crap dream that involved him last night. Bugger you, subconsciousness!

    Still can’t get into Fifty Shades of Grey. May be dead from the neck down.

    Looking forward to taking the cherubs to the Winter Festival in the Blue Mountains this weekend. I’m even going to dress up!

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  45. Rach

    OMM: Planning road trips…never before have I lived anywhere (i.e. Perth) where you can actually drive somewhere exciting in a couple of hours (except Margaret River…which we do just for the wine…I miss my Australian wine :( )

    I am driving to Ohio with a couple of friends (and no husband…kind of nice :0 ) to go to a conference, then we are planning trips to Indiana to visit one of our friends while he gets settled to do his Masters, and Chicago so husband can get a suit and I can get my instruments serviced. I can’t believe I am 2-3 hours drive from all these places!

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    • Cinnamon

      Sounds like fun Rach! I know so strange that you can do that here… we can drive less than an hour and be in Windsor, and then of course a 4 hour drive to Chicago or Toronto….

      There’s a massive Amish community in Ohio if you’re interested hehe ;) actually I think it’s the biggest settlement in the world!

      Enjoy Chicago… any excuse hehe.

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  46. picardie.girl

    Hm, that makes me dislike Richard Wilkins a little less.

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  47. Anon

    OMM: I’m being bullied by a colleague and it is awful. He is on the same level management as me and keeps emailing critisim to me whilst copying in our boss and when I talk to her about it she says she is on my side, yet nothing gets done. It’s not cool.

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    • picardie.girl

      Ugh, that’s awful. I’ve been bullied at work too – the passive-agressive email kind is truly the nastiest.

      Bad of the boss not to ask them to stop it.

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    • La Petite Chou

      Keep a diarised record of every criticism and your response to it to date.

      Respond to each of the criticisms in a respectful and non-inflammatory way and address every concern with what you did to address it and when.

      Tell him (in the email) that while you appreciate his concerns, a less critical approach to the problems at hand rather than personal criticism of your management style is a desired outcome from this point on.

      Tell him (in the email), that from now on, because of the inflammatory and passive aggressive nature of his tone, and in light of continued emails and differences between the two of you, that and any unresolved concerns and complaints will be directed to the next management meeting the two of you will share with your boss, for direct action and resolution at that level.

      CC your boss into your email.

      Puts them both on notice.

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    • Alice

      Also tell him that it’s inappropriate for him to involve your boss with every critcism and that he should come to you directly first. He’s just being a deliberate a*****e. Sorry you’re experiencing that.

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    • Mosquitonet

      speak to your HR department, nobody shold tolerate being bullied

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  48. Deb A

    First world problem & a stupid one at that… but having just tried to clean Mr 6s’ bedroom, can someone tell me why Lego has so many very very small pieces….. He doesn’t have a clue – but I will never get that hour back. :)

    Also to Anon re your comment below – if you feel strongly enough to have ownership over this web site & make your feelings known, couldn’t you also be bothered to wrtite your name ?? even if you make one up for the occasion ? It’s kind of like going to the polls & voting informal – it just doesn’t count in my books.

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  49. Anonymous

    mmm.. Well hello Gareth :)

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    • gypsy

      oops that was me. Gypsy. Pleased to meet you.

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  50. DanDan

    OMM: I’m off to the doc tonight for my first pre-natal appt, am 9 weeks and so excited, but also terrified of all the thing that may go wrong over the next 7 months!

    On top of that, I just want to tell work to go and f**** themselves and studying at Uni full time, but don’t want to place the burden on my husband of having to support me (even though he says I should do it)

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