A woman has posted to Reddit asking for advice about some “weird clauses” her fiance has put in their prenup. And we’d say weird is an understatement.
The 29-year-old woman explained that her 36-year-old fiance is a very successful neurosurgeon so she wasn’t surprised when he asked for a prenup.
“I am all for them actually,” she said, but added that once she went through the prenup with her fiance’s father, who is a lawyer, she noticed a few “odd clauses”.
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According to the woman, who lives in New York City, there’s an infidelity clause “so if I cheat on him, I walk away with basically nothing.” Which seem fairly standard if movies and TV shows have taught us anything (real) about prenups.
But then she continues that there’s a “compensation for children clause”.
“I am not sure if I interpreted this correctly so anyone may correct me, but in the prenup my fiance mentioned that for every child I have for him, I get a chunk of money, which to me doesn’t sound legal but maybe it is?” she asked the forum.
Although we have many questions about that particular clause – why does he need to pay his wife to have children… considering they’ll be their children – it wasn’t even the most baffling/horrifying clause of the prenup.
Because her husband-to-be had also added in a weight-loss clause. Yes, really.
“I have to lose any weight I gain after child birth, at least 30lb (13.6kg) of it in the first year following childbirth,” she wrote, later adding in the comments that she would be required to weigh herself “pre-birth, peak-pregnancy, post-birth and then an annual weigh in to see if I have complied”.
Or else what? WHAT HAPPENS IF SHE DOES NOT COMPLY?
She does add that her fiance magnanimously excluded “weight gain from medical conditions in the contract”.
Almost all commenters were in agreement that the woman should hire her own lawyer – that wasn’t her future father-in-law.
Many also told the woman to make sure the prenup clauses go both ways .
“I would add to it that if the husband also gains 30 pounds and does not lose it within a year then it invalidates the requirement on her. It should be equal on both parties. Same thing with the cheating clause and any other rule,” one advised.
“Remember marriage is a partnership and you have assets to protect as well as he does – you should not sign his prenup, you should both sign a prenup that protects you both,” another added.
“I were in your shoes, I’d want a counter clause saying that he needs to provide childcare and a personal trainer, nutritionist and chef to come to your home while you’re trying to meet his unrealistic expectations,” another commented.
There were, of course, many commenters telling the woman to run, but considering she was asking for legal advice, not relationship advice, they were deleted for being off topic.
But dear god, we hope she runs.
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These provisions are way too crazy - especially the weight gain one! Nobody knows what life is going to throw at us or how the pregnancies will turn out. I hope she escapes unless she's accepting a completely controlled marriage
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Usually when someone states financial gain from their wife giving birth to their child/children it could mean the husband would retain custody of the children if she violated any of the clauses. By signing this type of agreement you would be showing the judge that he paid you for having his children and you were a willing partner and he/she may actually be in favor of the husband having custody. The husband is treating this like a business and not like a marriage. Add clauses of your own and make this more of an equal opportunity situation, making sure you retain physical custody of your children. I have read where other men have had this type of agreement and somewhere in the teeny, tiny print it shows that if any of the clauses are not strictly adhered to the 'wife' loses the kids to the husband's custody. Unfortunately I have also seen situtions where the husband set up another man to come on to his wife so he could 'find' them together, hugging or what have you, then he can divorce, give her no money and retain custody of the children. Beware and be careful!
I completely agree with Melody. I would add that there needs to be "clarification" of these clauses in fact. I would ALSO request from your OWN attorney, the same principles apply in the event that HE cheats on YOU. The prenup is then null and void, and you will fight it out in divorce court...