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The letter from a NSW school asking girls to dress more 'modestly'.

Sexism remains unfortunately alive and well throughout our schooling system.

This week, a parent whose children attend a Catholic school in Australia received a letter from the school's principal that left her outraged. The letter, addressed to all parents and guardians, said the school's female students need to dress more modestly to ensure "a safer and respectful learning environment".

The letter, which was sent to Mamamia by a concerned parent, began with "concerns over the way in which some of our girls are wearing their uniforms".

"It has come to our attention yet again that a number of girls have been rolling their skirts up to an unacceptable length. Furthermore, there's a concerning trend emerging where some girls are rolling up their sports shorts excessively, resulting in a tight fit that is unflattering both in the front and the rear," it read.

Note the reference to "unflattering". 

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"Additionally we've noticed that some girls are wearing shorts that are too small and too tight," the principal saying the said shorts "compromises their modesty".

The principal not only requested for the female students to dress more modestly, but he also equated modest dressing to a more "positive and respectful learning environment for both staff and students". 

As if the length of a girl's uniform skirt will improve her "wellbeing" or "safety".

"I am writing to you to request your support in addressing this issue with your daughter(s) where applicable. A conversation at home about the importance of wearing uniform properly and modestly would greatly assist us in ensuring a positive experience for all students.

"At this stage, we have chosen not to address this matter directly with the girls at the school to prevent any potential embarrassment. Nevertheless, should this concern persist, we may need to engage in individual conversations with them. Your cooperation in reinforcing these expectations at home is invaluable to achieving this goal."

The letter ended with: "Thank you for your attention to this matter and for your continued support in fostering a positive school culture."

For context, the school in question is co-ed.

Did the parents/guardians receive a letter informing them to tell their sons that how a girl dresses shouldn't change the behaviour they show towards them? No. 

As one of the parents tells Mamamia: "Frankly, I am appalled not just by the intention of the communication, but I also find the tone and word choice a little creepy. It is unacceptable that this message be disguised as something in the interests of a 'respectful' and 'inclusive' learning environment and key to student wellbeing."

We've seen stories like this play out again and again.

Countless schools across the country have been forced to issue apologies after making female students kneel down to have their skirts measured. A teacher involved in one of the incidents informed one of the girls that their skirt length was "distracting" for male teachers and older male students. 

One head teacher was quoted as saying: "It's not pleasant for male members of staff and students either, the girls have to walk up stairs and sit down and it's a complete distraction."

This same school sent girls home because their trousers were deemed too tight because they would prove a "distraction" to male teachers.

We've also seen pushback against dress codes for female students in Canada, where many of the pupils used the hashtag #IAmMoreThanADistraction and turned up at school with placards asking: "Are my pants lowering your test scores?"

Equating what a girl wears to whether or not it will incite rape or change the behaviour of men around her is wrong. 

So is suggesting that the length of a girl's skirt, or how tight her sports shorts are will impact a school's 'positive school culture'.

In schools throughout Australia, both public, private, independent and religious, there are far more rules about the clothing of girls versus boys. Wearing a skirt that isn't dragging below the knees shouldn't be considered an invitation or a distraction, but a moral right for every woman and girl. 

It's up to our education institutions to recognise the double standards at play. 

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mummee a month ago
The school in question accepts male students parading around in lacy bras and miniskirts to deliver valentine's day gifts to students and staff and then proudly posts photos of them on the schools Facebook page as something to be celebrated. Undeniable double standards and hypocritical behaviour by the school year in year out with females forever being reprimanded for their uniform and male students being lifted for their lack of modesty in the name of fundraisers.

kudacat a month ago
I attended this school myself in the 90s- when our skirts were so short they were barely visible. As far as I recall, this was not a major issue at the time? Yet here we sit 30 years later and I feel like I am stuck in a time warp- transported back to 1954. Where progress has taken a step backwards and men with archaic ideas are telling young women to dress ‘modestly’. Surprisingly I have managed to keep my ‘modesty’ in tact and have never been reprimanded in any workplace for dress code infringements.
I am now a mother of teenage girls and they also attend this school- both, I’m sure in violation of the ‘skirt rolling rule’. When I received the offending email last week I immediately felt what can only be described as second hand embarrassment. Similar to the feeling you get when you watch someone on television about to make a massive fool of themselves. Oh dear principal- what on earth were you thinking when you hit send? Although I strongly suspect he is not a frequent visitor to the Mamamia platform, so can possibly remain blissfully ignorant, believing the dialogue on this is limited to a couple of emails from disgruntled parents.
After some more thought the feminist in me came alive and I thought about all of the women of the past who fought hard to promote equality. I also reflected on some of the stories I have heard in my work from victim survivors. Women who blame themselves for being assaulted because their abusers have accused them of not being modest enough or dressing inappropriately. I started to think all hope was lost- until today when my faith was restored and I felt a sense of pride when reading the comments about this article. Some very well reasoned and clearly articulated arguments from young women who attend this school. Keep fighting the good fight ladies- stick to your values and don’t let anyone make you feel ashamed to be yourselves.