by JACQUI BARNES
When did I become the girl that men thought it was okay to send photos of their penis to?
Has classic courtship and wooing of a woman really fallen that far by the wayside? I mean, I realise that times have changed and sex is really just not a big deal but when did it become the accepted practice to send a girl a picture of your appendage instead of a bunch of flowers?
I was recently dating somebody that was an avid penis-photo-sender. And there were a few times were I casually mentioned that these particular images weren’t really a turn on for me (I mean really what girl has ever said “Now that’s a handsome penis photo!”)
Over one particular weekend we thought we would grab dinner and a movie. As things had been going so well, I was pretty certain what would be happening after dinner and the movie, so like any good girl scout I indulged in some pre-sex grooming and purchased some sexy lingerie.
Around midday I received a text message from my date spelling out what his intentions were for the evening (subtle = not!) accompanied by a photograph of his, ahem, package. Instant turn-off.
I made up an excuse and cancelled. It was honestly the biggest mood-killer I could have encountered. What happened to spontaneity? What happened to flirting? And the biggest worry for me was – why did he think it was okay to send me this? What did that say about me or his opinion of me?
I have been sent photos like this by three separate men. Is it me or is it just part of dating these days?
It’s not as if we are involved in a long distance relationship and we have to utilise other methods to keep the spark alive (Skype-sex anyone?). He lives 15 minutes away. Stop taking photos with your phone, take a girl out for a nice meal and you may find you won’t have a need for these types of photos again! I was planning on sleeping with you stupid. Dump a bucket of cold water on my head why don’t you!
I haven’t written this guy off completely but he’s going to need some training when it comes to how I like to be wooed. Wooing does not include photographs of his anatomy. It does include thoughtful messages, asking how my day was, a nice dinner and pleasant conversation. Perhaps then it will be worth the effort to shave my legs and wear sexy knickers.
Jacqui is mother to a gorgeous seven year old boy, a dater, wannabe world – traveller, blogger (and full time worker). You can follow her blog here and her Twitter here.
Have you ever been sent a penis photo, or any other ‘sexy’ photo? What exactly is the correct response to a dick-pic?
Top Comments
I was sent a wanking video by an ex once. I screamed when I opened it...... Then I hurriedly txt girlfriends to ask if my reaction was extreme - it wasn't. I told the guy never to contact me again!
Thanks for sharing Jacqui,
I though I was the only one this happened to? I still have two different messages from different guys with their engorged knobs filling up my mobile screen. It happened once when I opened an email from my work. I agree 100% that it is a total turn off. Perhaps guys really have started to believe all the porn they see on the net that portrays girls as "easy" and "up for it"
Knob jockeys! Here is another classic example from one of my internet experiences:
I was supposed to meet up with a young and somewhat handsome guy that had badgered me for days about getting together. I agreed on Saturday night to meet him for a brief drink. In all honesty, meeting for 20 – 30 minutes is more than enough time to see if there is any chemistry or attraction for the other person. Tack it onto a night out and you don’t go to any effort for nothing. I got off work with an early mark and set about showering and washing my hair (to get rid of the airline smell – I changed careers four months ago but more on that later)
Drying my hair as I got dressed, I sent him a message asking what time to meet and where.. he responded by saying he was “..at a 10 year reunion.. where are you..”
Clearly he had forgotten about scheduling some time with me and had gone for another option. I was disappointed and slightly miffed – there were a few guys that had wanted a date and I could have made arrangements with them. I decided to go out alone. I didn’t mind going out solo, knowing it wouldn’t be a massive night because I am on stand-by for work today. I figured I would go out for an hour and see if there were any friends having a drink at the local establishment.
No one I knew was out as I scoped the room and made my way to the DJ with a drink in one hand, my phone in the other. The DJ Alex, had worked at a lot of the same clubs where I’d worked as a GoGo dancer (again in another life that I will explain some other time) we talked about who we knew and embarked in random chit chat until a “friend” turned up to talk to him. The friend was an absolute A-Hole so I excused myself to go stand outside in the night air. My phone beeped with the second message and here is my response:
Guy: I have no cold water can I come over for a shower
Me: Yeah sure. 91-93 Roscoe St Bondi. The spare keys are in the laundry around the back. Let yourself in and help yourself to the beers in my fridge. I'm going out for a few drinks and maybe I'll catch you naked in my bed...? I am in the front room that faces the street.
The address I posted was for the Bondi Police Station.