By NATALIA HAWK
Welcome to another Wednesday and therefore another open post of the week, where you can come and chat about whatever is on your mind.
Nothing is off limits, but in case you are stuck for ideas, I thought I would kick off. Currently, on my mind is… well… not a lot. There’s been so much happening that, instead of being able to keep it all in my brain, it’s all fallen out. As a result, I am currently in an incredibly scattered kind of headspace.
For example, just in the last 24 hours, I’ve…
– Caught the wrong bus to work – despite catching the same bus to work, at the same time, for 3 years now. I didn’t even realise until the scenery outside the window became completely unrecognisible. Cue panic and incredibly stupid questions directed to the man next to me. Me: “Is this the X94?!?!” Him: “No.” Me: “AHHHH!” End of conversation.
– Turned up at my gym to do a fun 8:30pm Body Jam class. Turns out that Body Jam starts at 7:30pm on a Tuesday. At least I got to see all the happy endorphin-filled people leaving the class, I suppose.
– Had M&Ms for breakfast. But that’s dairy. And Lucy had them too so it’s kind of okay.
There are many more examples I could offer you, but you probably get the point by now.
Happily, life has a funny little way of sorting itself out. All my assignments will be handed in by the end of the week and then I’m on uni holidays for a few weeks. On Sunday, I get to do the Blackmores Bridge Run as part of the Sydney Running Festival – despite a long battle with shin splints over the last few weeks, I’m so looking forward to it. And then on Monday, I head off on a three day wellness/yoga retreat in the bush somewhere.
Let’s hope that I return nice and refreshed – and at least capable of being able to catch the right bus again.
What’s happening in your world at the moment?
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Hey MMers - sorry its a day late. Been a busy week. I'm working full time again, and still keeping up my music because I need that balance. Did a jazz set Tuesday night and got some really lovely feedback, did a couple of rock sets last night and this amazing guitarist whom I'm just getting to know wants to do another set with me tonight. Cheaper than therapy!
Bloke has been in touch. I'm less angry which has allowed me to ask him why amongst other things. He is desperate to come and apologise to us face to face. My middle girl is still very hurt because she and he were close - she finally felt in him a father figure - and she doesn't want him to see her upset. :( He has been to see a solicitor and is going to see my shrink today because I guess I need to see actions as his words have no value anymore.
I don't know where this will end up, but I guess there was much good in there with the crap, and I guess we are always still learning and growing. He seems to be recognising that his loyalites were in the wrong place, I guess. Ahh I could dribble for a while but for the meantime, my girls and I are doing ok. I'm incredibly proud of how they are stepping up, doing chores and getting ready on time. Looking forward to a bloody big sleep in on the weekend though - I'm knackered!!
Good to hear from you, glad you are all doing well. It sounds like this man is learning some huge life-altering lessons; I have my fingers crossed that they stick with him and he ends up a better, more honest person. You are so right about the actions being needed because his words have no value anymore - if you choose to keep him in your lives then hopefully this won't always be the case and the trust comes back gradually and he builds up his integrity again.
I wish you lots of inner strength in dealing with everything - it sounds like you are doing such a great job holding it together and setting a great example for the kids. xx
Please HM don't go back to him. He's a pathological liar and your children do not deserve his major issues.
How long did he lie to you? Now he's sorry because he's been caught out. So he's seeing your shrink today - why not a month ago or two or three? He obviously is only doing this in an attempt to get you back.
Pathological liars are very convincing and extremely manipulative. They are also incredibly selfish. If he did care about you and your children he would not have lied and lied and lied to you.
He only cares about himself. If he really wanted to change he would a hell of a lot of personal work with a therapist and it would take a long time.
Pathological liars, trust me, are very dangerous. You will end up far worse than you are now, your life will be destroyed.
And it's not about his "loyalties" he lied to everyone, his wife, you, your children and probably more people. Please don't allow yourself to be conned by him again.
Omm: money.
Husband made redundant few weeks ago due to mining downturn. Now working casual hours as a contractor. I am at uni. Worried about money. Graduate in 8 weeks but won't be able to work my new job role until January. Do you think anyone would hire me casually over the Christmas break? I hate the thought of them training me and then I leave. But honestly, money is tight and who knows when he will get full time work. Anyone have any ideas?? Even thought of selling plants/herbs at the markets to make some cash but not sure how successful that would be. I have no sewing talents sadly.
Lots of retail shops hire people for over the busy Christmas period, its all casual work too :) Keep an eye out because they will start advertising soon.
If you're in a city, the big department stores hire "Christmas casuals" whose contacts end in January.
Defintiely start getting your resume ready to give to department stores for Christmas casuals! If you let them know what you are after and get in early you probably have way more chance of getting something :) Maybe write a cover letter detailing your good qualities that may really benefit them from the short term - such as you're a fast learner in store procedures (less effort training you for them) or any kind of relevant experience. Maybe also state your loyalty to their particular store, that way they already have a sense of confidence in you giving really great service over Christmas because of your love of their products, adds value to you as a short term employee. Also all the basic skills which will be relevant to the holiday period: conflict resolution, ability to work fast paced, quick thinking, high sales volume, speed etc.
Good Luck x