A bus stop, a wedding, a playground, a university lecture hall, a friend’s party, my own party, a shop floor, a Woolies.
These are the places I have been asked the question, “but how do lesbians actually have sex?”
I used to reply with a deep breath, a searching look and a curt, “we just take turns holding hands.”
Because it is, inherently, a homophobic, shit thing to say to somebody that makes them feel like they need to validate their acts of intimacy using the heterosexual model as “standard.”
I’m now 25 and over it.
So we made a video to answer some of our most commonly asked questions. We could have been serious and spoken about why our sex is nobody's business but when we were growing up, "gay" and "sex" were only used in the contexts of arrests, deviancy and insults on the playground.
This video is for everybody but especially for the young gays whose newsfeeds are still filled with tragedy in the community.
It's light, it's fun and it's playing above.
Enjoy a cheeky look into the sex lives of two young and gay Australians and share your newfound knowledge wisely.
And remember: all sex is different and we are not the authorities on anything other than our own experience.
Top Comments
ha! i love this so much.
yep. i HATE getting this question. it's actually just a really dumb thing to ask...i used to say something like "are you serious? you really can't imagine? wow. does that mean you and your partners have never gone beyond penis-in-vagina sex? or you've never masturbated? now that you've brought this up, please do go on and explain to me the finer details of your own sex life..."
i actually find it impossible to believe that people under the age of 80 do not know how lesbians have sex. It's not freaking rocket science people. i know you're just asking because you are either a perv or you're trying to invalidate my relationship.
now when someone asks me i can't even be bothered engaging - i just tell them to google it if they're really that ignorant.
I'm not curious/pervy enough to google it but when I saw the headline I was curious enough to watch the post but it didn't answer much for me. Lesbians yeah sure it's not rocket science but up until recently I thought all gay men had anal sex, then someone said to me that there is a giver and a receiver in a relationship like it's a one way street....oh ok. Then I saw Stephen Fry on the TV talking about never having had anal sex giving or receiving and that he and his partner do other things...oh ok. So maybe these are the things that open minded but middle aged/slightly ignorant but willing to be educated, people like me might have watched the video for.
Yeah look I don't think anybody is saying being curious is a bad thing, but actually going and asking a gay person to explain how they do it is rude at the least
Sorry but is this it or is this an excerpt from the actual video? Am I the only one thinking that?
Yeah under 2 minutes wasn't much. I don't really understand them being insulted. Of course things would be different in sex between gay people, so people do wonder what goes on.