"DIY is the devil." The 7 irritating things anyone planning a wedding knows to be true.

I need to be completely honest about wedding planning for a moment.

It’s just… not what I expected.

Despite reading dozens of forums, listening to countless podcasts and talking to a handful of friends about their experience, it seems you don’t really understand just how sh*t wedding planning can really be until you’re right in the thick of it.

Yes, I get it – I’d be annoyed at me too. It’s a beautiful and exciting time and I really should be grateful to be in this position. (Trust me, I am). But… I didn’t realise that this was going to be such a stressful (and expensive) job.

Side note – we asked people how much money they think is acceptable to spend on a wedding dress and the answers might surprise you. Post continues after video.

You see, I have a theory.

I’m pretty certain that some people are just born knowing exactly how to plan a wedding.

They know what needs to be done. They know when it needs to be done. And they know how to get it done.

But me? Well, I’m over 12 months into planning now and I still feel like I have absolutely no idea what I’m doing. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

From deciding on a guest list to figuring out what the heck a wedding theme is and whether you actually need one, all this planning is stressful, dammit.

And while there’s plenty to look forward to during wedding planning (um, cake tasting anyone?), there’s also a lot of annoying little things that pop up along the way.

Here’s just seven of the irritating things everyone planning a wedding knows to be true.

The one question everyone asks.

From the moment you’re engaged, there’s one question everyone will ask you: “Have you set a date yet?”


Just hours after the proposal took place, we announced the news to our friends and family. And almost immediately, the question started coming up.

Less than 24 hours after the proposal, we were even being asked if we knew who was in our bridal party yet.

Trust me – if you ask any newly engaged couple these questions, they’ll probably have no idea.

Heck, it’s been a year and I still don’t know what to say when people ask me: “So, how’s wedding planning going?”

Wedding dress shopping can kinda suck.

The pressure to find the ~perfect dress~ is real.

And I don’t mean the pressure from a salesperson or your family and friends – it’s the constant internal pressure and questioning.


Will this dress make my parents cry? Will this dress make my soon-to-be husband cry? Can I see myself walking down the aisle in this? How do I know if this is The One?

It’s… a lot.

At the end of it, I was lucky enough to find a dress that I love.

But oh boy, it sure was an experience getting there.

Apparently you’re meant to have a theme?

Erm, so apparently you’re meant to have a wedding theme. Whatever that means.

Isn’t… getting married the theme?



Wedding DIY is sh*t.


Just… no.

If I wanted to do a DIY craft project, I’d do it. But a dozen craft projects for my wedding day? Yep, no thanks.

I know what you’re thinking. It’s undoubtedly a whole lot cheaper to make your own wedding decorations, invitations, stationary and more.

But I have one question.

Who has the spare time to spend eight hours making custom name cards? Or the patience to construct handmade table runners?

Oh, and don’t get me started on bonbonnieres…

Gathering addresses for invitations is the worst.

Planning a wedding is basically the one time in your life that you’re forced to find out exactly where every single one of your friends, colleagues and cousins lives.

Seriously, gathering addresses to send invitations is the absolute worst.

Let’s just make it easier (and a whole lot cheaper) and do a Facebook event invitation, yeah?

“Are you going to lose weight?”


It’s pretty much impossible to avoid the topic of weight loss while wedding planning.

Even at bridal conventions, you’re likely to spot companies spruiking bizarre ‘weight loss methods’ among vendors selling photography services, floral arrangements and wedding styling.

And the endless pressure doesn’t stop there.

Yes, people really do ask if you’re planning on “losing weight” or “toning up” for the wedding and yes, it f*cking sucks.

“So, when’s the baby coming?”

No, Karen.

Look, I get it. It’s exciting.

But please… can we just get through the wedding first?

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