Miscarriage is devastating, even if you already have a child. It feels as though your body is failing you, as though the happiness you felt just days before was some sort of cruel trick. That pregnancy that thrilled you and your partner is now gone and to make it even harder, you’re advised to ‘let your body miscarriage naturally’, which basically means you have to carry around your dead fetus until it comes out of it’s own accord.
Kayla Boyd, 29, wife of National Rugby League (NRL) player Darius Boyd, 29, who is signed to the Brisbane Bronocs, has spoken out about the worst 12 months of her life, sharing for the first time that in 2016 she went from feeling the joy of her second pregnancy, to being told she was miscarrying, to attending the funeral of her beloved grandmother to falling pregnant just two weeks later.
She wrote on her blog Adored by Kayla Boyd:
Kayla told the Courier Mail she will continue to speak about it to provide comfort to women with similar experiences. “Every time I write something I do think and I worry about how it’s going to be received… but I think surely nothing can be as bad as what I’ve already had to deal with. If anyone wants to have a negative opinion, that’s their opinion and we are all entitled to them.”
“Whatever path you take is what you want to do. Everybody needs to be commended on their own individual choices."
“No matter what it is about how you raise a child, you get judged regardless. If somebody doesn’t do something a certain way, it’s seen as the wrong way,” she said. “I see how instant bullying does actually affect a person. It affects me. I like to think I have thick skin but when you’re commenting about parenting, it’s a very personal topic.’’
Kayla continues to share her experiences on her blog Adored by Kayla Boyd and Darius says he speaks to his therapist twice a week.
Kayla Boyd shares so many beautiful family photos on Instagram, including of a recently family trip to Hawaii.
If you or someone you know is suffering from mental health issues contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 and talk to someone who can help you figure out what steps to take to stay well.
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Kayla, your honesty and bravery in sharing your story is incredible and commendable! I have done the same thing for similar reasons and society makes us feel guilty for it. Your always going to hear about others infertility but your story is not theirs and your reasoning is justified. I respect you so much for sharing this.
Is there no place for privacy anymore? I just don't understand why she has felt the need to tell us all of her reproductive woes and dilemmas. I don't buy the " it will help other women" excuse. An abortion is surely something intensely personal and private
Totally agree with you. Some things are to be kept between you and your spouse.